Girlfriend breaks up with you and two days later she hooks up with your best friend

[zxert]

I like advice. My advice is usually advice that I consider good advice. Advice is fun to give. Advice. Advice. Advice. That is a weird word.

[miichaelsmith]

There is a lot of bad advice here.

Here is some real advice.

1st of all. A woman should never be everything to you. Don't listen to anyone. The bottom line is that PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS 100% of the time FAIL you. Everyone, even your parents, even your "soulmate". There is no perfect woman for you. Theres probably a really awesome girl for you.

2nd of all. You don't love her as much as you think you do. You have this view of who she is, shes beautiful and perfect. If you saw the real her it would look like this.


You are blinded by your sexual urges and need for companionship. How do you get around it? Forgive her. Tell her you forgive her, but you don't want her or need her. That you don't want ANYTHING to do with her. If you hold onto anything even resentment, anger, ANY FEELINGS TOWARDS HER your next girl will get all of that crap, then that relationship will be worse. Don't move on until you can see her as the girl above, until you have no feelings toward her. THIS IS IMPORTANT.

3rd of all. That man is no longer your friend. Write him off. Now hes just a dude. Don't hold any anger or resentment for him either. There are plenty of good dudes out there who would slap the piss out of her and tell you to ditch her.

4th of all. Take responsibility for your choices. You chose this girl. You chose your friend. Next time choose better, its that simple. Don't let yourself fall for a girl until you see her when shes angry, sad, scared, on her period, with her friends, around other guys, around kids, around her parents. Watch her eyes! Does she check out guys? Does she flirt with other guys? And for CRAPS sake don't have sex with her until she proves that shes worth it. Why? Because when you have sex with her it makes you stupid. When you're blinded by sex, you fail to notice this kind of stuff about a girl. You need to pick and choose who you let in your life. Pick successful people who are motivated and have moral character. Don't pick people who will steal, lie, cheat or misbehave.

5th of all. You're 18. You're transferring between high school and real life. Take your time to drop this girl and that idiot. Then re-focus on your life. Make goals. Do stuff with your time. Get in shape. If you believe in god, get closer to him.

From the outside women want to see a man who really doesn't need her. A man who has plenty going on, plenty of friends, lots of hobbies, whos life is in order. Use this time to get your ship together.

Thats my advice. Take it or don't

Its just wack, i was in the "friend zone" for a solid year...and she didnt want anything to do with me relationship wise until i went to some party and hooked up with the chick..she texted me the next day and then soon enough were dating. i know her probably better then she does for the most part. we both got very close with eachothers family. we were super happy together and everyone saw that and thought that we were both close to perfect for eachother. it didnt feel like just another highschool relationship. it felt like alot more and we both knew that. we went through so much and we both started dating when both of our lives werent in the best spots. then she started acting a little weird, being more distant and wanted to do her own thing more..and i understood and respected that. and then she says she wants to breakup..she said she wants to have fun and meet people and basically wanting the single life. and then when we talked a couple days ago she didnt want me to leave, she told me how much she still misses me and loves me and wants what we had back. but honestly she just doesnt know what she wants. and she needs to figure that shit out before i get back together with her, if i do.

[atmobenzin]

There is a lot of bad advice here.

Here is some real advice.

Thats my advice. Take it or don't

This is some srsly good advice.

[M3Philipp]

[zxert]

There is a lot of bad advice here.

Here is some real advice.

1st of all. A woman should never be everything to you. Don't listen to anyone. The bottom line is that PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS 100% of the time FAIL you. Everyone, even your parents, even your "soulmate". There is no perfect woman for you. Theres probably a really awesome girl for you.

2nd of all. You don't love her as much as you think you do. You have this view of who she is, shes beautiful and perfect. If you saw the real her it would look like this.


You are blinded by your sexual urges and need for companionship. How do you get around it? Forgive her. Tell her you forgive her, but you don't want her or need her. That you don't want ANYTHING to do with her. If you hold onto anything even resentment, anger, ANY FEELINGS TOWARDS HER your next girl will get all of that crap, then that relationship will be worse. Don't move on until you can see her as the girl above, until you have no feelings toward her. THIS IS IMPORTANT.

3rd of all. That man is no longer your friend. Write him off. Now hes just a dude. Don't hold any anger or resentment for him either. There are plenty of good dudes out there who would slap the piss out of her and tell you to ditch her.

4th of all. Take responsibility for your choices. You chose this girl. You chose your friend. Next time choose better, its that simple. Don't let yourself fall for a girl until you see her when shes angry, sad, scared, on her period, with her friends, around other guys, around kids, around her parents. Watch her eyes! Does she check out guys? Does she flirt with other guys? And for CRAPS sake don't have sex with her until she proves that shes worth it. Why? Because when you have sex with her it makes you stupid. When you're blinded by sex, you fail to notice this kind of stuff about a girl. You need to pick and choose who you let in your life. Pick successful people who are motivated and have moral character. Don't pick people who will steal, lie, cheat or misbehave.

5th of all. You're 18. You're transferring between high school and real life. Take your time to drop this girl and that idiot. Then re-focus on your life. Make goals. Do stuff with your time. Get in shape. If you believe in god, get closer to him.

From the outside women want to see a man who really doesn't need her. A man who has plenty going on, plenty of friends, lots of hobbies, whos life is in order. Use this time to get your ship together.

Thats my advice. Take it or don't

[Mr. Burns]

UNLESS...you heed Katy's advice, build a TIME MACHINE and STOP THIS INFERNO from happening in the 1st place.

[Mr. Burns]

OP.

have you considered simply listening to some soothering Katy Perry?

you and her have the same issues at hand...

Summer after high school when we first met
We make out in your Mustang to Radiohead
And on my 18th Birthday
We got matching tattoos

Used to steal your parents' liquor
And climb to the roof
Talk about our future
Like we had a clue
Never planned that one day
I'd be losing you

[steinbachphoto]

I guess I'll give a story too, ex gf, dated for over a year, maybe a 7/10. Was a complete bitch, tore down my confidence, made me feel like it was either her or I would get no one else.

She broke up with me, screwed some random guy the next day, tried to come back to me, I told her to screw off.

I was so pissed I started running and working out all the time, focusing on myself and school. My GPA jumped 2 points, got jacked, overall a lot happier.

And when I wasn't looking, met a 10/10 super nice girl, and now we're dating.

Moral of the story: worry about yourself only right now. Everything else will fall into place.

[miichaelsmith]

Her friend kinda looks like Jennifer aniston....

Trust me her friend looks nothing like her haha..

[miichaelsmith]

Try putting all this effort and money you were putting into her, into your car.

I bet in a while you'll have a bad ass car ;)

Hahaha word.. Thanks everyone for you help and opinions

[steinbachphoto]

Her friend kinda looks like Jennifer aniston....

side note, isn't JA an absolute babe in Horrible Bosses

[gtdragon980]

Her friend kinda looks like Jennifer aniston....

[steinbachphoto]

Try putting all this effort and money you were putting into her, into your car.

I bet in a while you'll have a bad ass car ;)

[M3Philipp]

I understand but how do I just move on after that long?

It will take time I think, just dont give yourself up, belive in yourself.
She left you, but it maybe makes you more experienced.
You learn things from this, to the good and to the bad.

[VANOS714]