Most happy/miserable "types" of people

[FredK]

The happiest people are those who grew up in an environment that made them feel loved and emphasized social interaction.

Unhappy people are loners who struggle connecting with other people, and retreat into materialism.

I found this to be comment-worthy, because it's an incongruity in your statement where an introvert's sole path to coping with introversion is materialism, and extroverts are just happy because they've been raised with an emphasis on social interaction.

Introverts shy away from social interaction and extroverts, the opposite. It is how they are hard-wired from the factory to deal with their environments.

Both can be generally happy. It depends on your definition of happy. Happy is not a person that's always smiling and being friendly. That is merely an extrovert being in their element. Take away social interaction from an extrovert and I'll show you a sad extrovert.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to buy some shiny trinket on Amazon to quell this rising rage I felt after reading your post.

:p

[ParsedOut]

Agreed, saying introverts can't be happy is far from the truth. I do however think that their hard wired inclinations often lead them to IT work which in itself is a thankless and stressful job. It usually pays well, which may give the appearance of materialism but anyone here would do the same (save for our blossoming Buddhist population).

I will say however, keeping a close eye on the materialism mindset is important to happiness and "self worth". It's especially hard for those of us that have ever shifting interests and hobbies. Anyway, just a simple observation.

[FredK]

I believe people at their very core define the forms that fill their own existential voids at a young age. There are many forms, but among them are social interaction, financial security, and material possessions. These forms define security and stability in people's lives, and ultimately, contribute to feelings of power and self-worth.

These forms put people at odds with their existence. Everyone always wants more social interaction, more money, more stuff. This very want that creates our behaviors also creates the subsequent suffering.

So keeping track of feelings of materialism is not guaranteed to bring you happiness. Repudiating the dogma of tying your self-worth to materials and money will help you get there.

Am I insulated from wanting stuff? No. But is it repulsive to me to see people defining their success by the size of their bank account or their possessions? Yes.

[E30 Wagen]

Nowhere did I say or mean to imply that introverts are unhappy and materialistic, nor imply that happiness is dependent on someone's personality type, ie; A, B.

Like what you were saying, I think it has a lot to do with a person's surroundings and how they learn to deal with their environments. I think anybody, extrovert or introvert, who struggles to develop meaningful relationships often find themselves feeling isolated and unhappy. Learning how to interact with people is most often learned from one's family.

Surrounding themselves with stuff seems to be a common thing that people do to try and feel happy. Here's an example I've heard about and witnessed more than a few times times: a family member dies, an occurrence which may greatly affect somebody, obviously. However, there is never a healthy period of grieving for this person. Next thing you know they own 6 cars, 3 big screen TVs, and lots and lots of junkfood.

There's no replacement for a social support system, even if it's just one person. One person can make all the difference.

[Exodus_2pt0]

now....with that said, i absolutely love my job. i can't imagine doing anything that would make me feel more self actualized. as good as i think i have life, i can't tell you how many people i fly with who are bitter and pissed off. i always think to myself, why don't you try doing a real job for a year or two and come back to this one. i bet their attitudes would be 180 degrees.

I see the same. Now my work is sometimes extremely physically demanding but I take away a great sense of personal satisfaction in a job well done. I also came from a flat rate industry where I never knew how much money I would make, if any, when I went to work in the morning.

Now that I take in an income that supports myself and my family, and I get to play with giant behemoths all day, I love my life. Some of the people I work with bitch and can't stand it, but I wonder if they have really seen what else is out there like I have.

Moral of the story? Find a job that you get a kick out of, that ISN'T something you do in your off time (because then you won't want to). Flyboy can't fly planes at home, I can't play with trains at home, so we look forward to going to work because then we get to have fun and make money.

I personally think that it isn't so much the job making the person or the person making the job. It more so comes down to whether or not you look forward to going to work each day. If you hate what you do day in and day out, how could you expect to be happy over all?

[gwb72tii]

being happy or sad is a personal choice we make. you can train yourself to see the glass as half full, not almost fucking empty.
i chose happy a long long time ago. i was a bit shy, and my best friend thru high school died of cancer at age 26.
so i learned life is unfair. but every day has good in it if you bother to look.
every day is a gift. make it count because literally you do not know if you have any left after today.
and live life without regrets. tell people close to you you love them, and let them love you back.

[2mAn]

I think how happy you are is directly associated with how good your E30 is running and how long its been since you've been laid. With that said, My E30 is running great but I havent been laid since I broke up with my lady a few months back. Im still pretty happy

[Kevinl]

Happy =R3v members
Miserable = e90 post members

[Thizzelle]

If in a given day you meet one or two guys who are assholes, then they might actually be assholes. If in a given day you meet a bunch of assholes (like regularly), maybe you are the real asshole.

Someone said this but I know know the source. Don't question this post too much. It's 2:30am and I should be sleeping.

the super assholes are the ones who don't admit to being an asshole.

[HerbE30]

You should watch this movie. Link didn't workk. Movie is called Waking Life.

Life is existence. What you create is yours to hold.

Also, I work in IT.

[flyboyx]

Man, I forgot about this thread. So many things here to make you think.

[sonomabimmers]

I think how happy you are is directly associated with how good your E30 is running and how long its been since you've been laid. With that said, My E30 is running great but I havent been laid since I broke up with my lady a few months back. Im still pretty happy

Happy =R3v members
Miserable = e90 post members..

Came here for the LULZ......left very satisfied.

[cheffy30]

I think how happy you are is directly associated with how good your E30 is running and how long its been since you've been laid. With that said, My E30 is running great but I havent been laid since I broke up with my lady a few months back. Im still pretty happy

i am lucky to have both
i have been very happy with my daily for the last 15 years...
and my nightly for 27...