Am I a jerk

[Kevinl]

So here is the story my wife's mom has a habit of getting in relationships with guys who don't have cars I would call them losers but whatever

So last May my son was born and my wife is just going back to work now.

she has been letting her mom drive her car so her boyfriend can drive hers.

I told her once you get a job your getting your car back, they were paying 200 dollars a month to her to drive a 20,000 dollar car and we were paying the rest of the payment and insurance. They just moved into a bigger house and his work is only 3 miles away but my wife wants to continue to let them borrow the car I say he can walk or ride the bus. I told her no way, I have my Suburban, e30 and my wife has a Pontiac G8 and I drive a truck for work even though we have plenty of cars I'm not cool with them driving the $hit out of her car while my suburban gets driven a couple thousand miles a month instead of sitting in the garage with the e30.

I figure they will drag it out another year if I don't put my foot down and say tough $hit

My wife thinks I am being a dick but we already helped them for 6 months if you needed to get a car you could have quit smoking and drinking beer and if we keep enabling them they won't ever get a car and they are depreciating and causing wear and tear on our vehicles

[slaterd]

Situations like this it's either get walked on or be the a$$hole. In this situation I'd tell them tough $hit. 3 miles? He can walk...

[rhE-30]

Make that foo walk. Why is paying for insurance for somebody else even an option, if they wreck it your likely not covered.

[Deltron Dirty30]

excuse me i am car-less at the moment.

[Kevinl]

excuse me i am car-less at the moment.

Do you want to borrow a car too

If you are in NYC that makes sense also I am guessing your not 50 years old like he is

[rhE-30]

Ooo, OOO, Make him buy an E30.

[redsubdivisions]

Ooo, OOO, Make him buy an E30.

No. That will be another Trina incident. lol

From what it sounds like, they are just taking advantage of your generosity. That would never happen in my household.

[e30vert]

Find a rational point to stand on like the one mentioned above and state that you have discussed it with your insurance agent and they have informed you that if an accident were to occur then you would not be covered and the other part involved in the accident could come after your assets.

Just "mask" it behind something that is plausible and that will keep you from being an asshole in their eyes. Better yet, actually call your insurance agent and discuss this sharing scenario with them. More then likely one will find out that what was stated above is not too far from the truth.

Grown men without a vehicle to their name cease to be grown men in my eyes. So tell the little boy that he needs to give the car back.

Having a vehicle to drive as a man is like a "right of passage" and opens the door to freedom.

If I did not have a vehicle I would feel that my testicles would surely shrink.

[e30vert]

excuse me i am car-less at the moment.

Yes, but the difference is that you are working towards obtaining or fixing a car so that you can regain your self worth and sense of freedom.

I am assuming this of course.

The other person mentioned obviously appears to be "milking it" for all its worth.

[dannyyisntt]

Didn't read.. But seeing how this is r3v, I think it's safe to assume your an ass.

[xAZxE30x]

3 miles?! take the bus/bike/walk. Even in this heat its not that far. on a bike that's nothing.

gotta put your foot down man. Especially since you are married. I was easy going on some things before being married but now i have no issue speaking my mind and letting anyone know how things go. Luckily both of our parents wouldn't ever take us for a ride like that

I have some aunts that have been doing similar stuff to my mom and i finally told her to cut them loose. Its hard when it is family but it is the only way some people can get the hint and make some changes

[roznic]

it all depends if u're drinking beer with your father-in-law to b.... ;-))

[roznic]

and if he is buying it periodically, at least

[agile30]

Your being an adult. Put your foot down and say it's done.

[roznic]

Your being an adult. Put your foot down and say it's done.

that's why i said if he drinks beer with the dude, makes all the difference...