I was googling this topic. 3 years into marriage and I am totally confused about what exactly is the benefit of being a man besides not having a period every month. Thankfully, my wife is interested in making sure our marriage lasts, and she's wants open communication and expresses her confidence that I can be the leader of our house hold. We often attend couples Bible studies that explore the meaning of marriage and how we can love our wives and the importance of women to respect their husbands. Of course they touch on the subject of God's intended order for the man to lead the house hold with righteousness and love and for the woman to be subject to her own husband (basically respect him and not demean his man hood).
In our generation, It is often the case that once you are married, it like "Dude, you better do what ever she says". Those are the joking comments you get from older married men or even your Dad. Pleasing the woman and doing what she says keeps her "Happy", but years down the line, she'll lose respect for you because you let her have her way all the time to avoid conflict (like a lil Biach). It seems there needs to be a balance. She wants to buy a new sofa and it's affordable, fine, let her and give your opinion if she asks. But if she want to get a new joint credit card, if that's not a good idea, in a loving manner, explain why that's a bad decision for the family and even if she gets mad, she'll get over herself and probably even apologize for being a brat.
I'd like to share a posting on a marriage forum i found as a result of my googling. This is
from the Christian-marriage-today forum:
"My Wife is Head of Household
by: Anonymous
My wife is the Head of our Household now after I could not control myself sexually. She actually took control of everything piece by piece, month by month. She now does almost nothing around the home at all unless forced to if I am out of town. The money, home, all our possessions are now in her name and she controls them all and only occasionally asks my opinion on something. A few weeks ago I went out of town on business and came back to a house in shambles....she demanded I clean it up in two days. Often she does these things on purpose to test my devotion to her. I obediently complied and she reciprocated by allowing me to please her sexually. I of course very rarely get to have a sexual release, so she can exert proper control. All this may sound weird, but our home has never been more peaceful for all, including kids. They now know that Mommy is in complete charge of everything and she is Boss. What she says , goes and she has become addicted to the power of it, often completely turned on and demanding I sexually please her at odd times and in odd places. Ironically I and my wife are happier than ever before and consequently have become closer to God in process. Suppose it's atonement for my sins, but it is amazing how our lives have changed for better. All I can say is it works! "
I was taken aback when I read this. But I do have to say...it sounds totally made up.
In our generation, It is often the case that once you are married, it like "Dude, you better do what ever she says". Those are the joking comments you get from older married men or even your Dad. Pleasing the woman and doing what she says keeps her "Happy", but years down the line, she'll lose respect for you because you let her have her way all the time to avoid conflict (like a lil Biach). It seems there needs to be a balance. She wants to buy a new sofa and it's affordable, fine, let her and give your opinion if she asks. But if she want to get a new joint credit card, if that's not a good idea, in a loving manner, explain why that's a bad decision for the family and even if she gets mad, she'll get over herself and probably even apologize for being a brat.
I'd like to share a posting on a marriage forum i found as a result of my googling. This is
from the Christian-marriage-today forum:
"My Wife is Head of Household
by: Anonymous
My wife is the Head of our Household now after I could not control myself sexually. She actually took control of everything piece by piece, month by month. She now does almost nothing around the home at all unless forced to if I am out of town. The money, home, all our possessions are now in her name and she controls them all and only occasionally asks my opinion on something. A few weeks ago I went out of town on business and came back to a house in shambles....she demanded I clean it up in two days. Often she does these things on purpose to test my devotion to her. I obediently complied and she reciprocated by allowing me to please her sexually. I of course very rarely get to have a sexual release, so she can exert proper control. All this may sound weird, but our home has never been more peaceful for all, including kids. They now know that Mommy is in complete charge of everything and she is Boss. What she says , goes and she has become addicted to the power of it, often completely turned on and demanding I sexually please her at odd times and in odd places. Ironically I and my wife are happier than ever before and consequently have become closer to God in process. Suppose it's atonement for my sins, but it is amazing how our lives have changed for better. All I can say is it works! "
I was taken aback when I read this. But I do have to say...it sounds totally made up.
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