My wife screwed me again

[Rau]

did you marry a crack whore? I'd gtfo...

this. GTFO!

[Raxe]

Sucks man, what a downer... she's draining you.

[Desaevious]

Its balls to see another thread about this. When you get home now would be the time to do the hard part: realize that you're gonna have to find another woman.

[farix]

Same kind of stuff happened to me(bought clothes, hid them, then got them out months later and told me they were old). Then we got seperate accounts and we are better for it. Also, I do not know from experience but I hear women go a little crazy when quitting nicotine. Plus if she really quits that is tons of extra income. They are like $6 a pack out here. I could not imagine smoking one to two packs a day at that price, glad I do not smoke.

[ck_taft325is]

It's your wife. So, talk to her. A lot.

I know in my marriage I'm definitely the 'spender' between the two of us. I've had to curb some pretty selfish habits and in general take lessons from her which she approached with amazing tact. Talk to her.

Separate accounts doesn't seem far off, honestly.

[Aptyp]

what does withdrawing money have to do with quiting smoking? You've married a moron.

[blunttech]

if you have to have separate accounts for trust reasons somethings wrong.
I think you know that. I just cant fathom staying with anyone i didnt trust 100%. Lifes too short . dont be a doormat

[5ickride]

I've watched enough of that show "intervention" to know she's a crack whore.

Film her with a video camera for a week, and then send her to Florida for a month and everything will be ok. I think.

Ive watched enough "snapped" to know that if that intervention dont go well...well, you know

OP, two separate accounts, done!

[CabrioPunk]

Seems like a lot of single guys giving marriage advice.

Two separate accounts still shows there is a problem; it doesn't fix it, only puts it in a different disguise. Talk and talk. Figure it out between you two. Get counseling/third party if best. Money is the leading cause of divorce. It is tough to talk about money. Our money us our money and we wish to do with it what we damn well please. However, you're married, youre on a team.

Do well man. Step up, be the man and lead by example. Your wife will love ya for it.

[325_e30]

if you have to have separate accounts for trust reasons somethings wrong.
I think you know that. I just cant fathom staying with anyone i didnt trust 100%. Lifes too short . dont be a doormat

truth. if this has happened once before then its a problem. If you cant trust the one youre with then you shouldnt be with that person. No amount of "love" can rebuild it.

although it is cheaper to keep her..well at least in FL it is. Take her on a "vacay" to the grand canyon, i heard its slippery by the edge.;)

Seems like a lot of single guys giving marriage advice.

Two separate accounts still shows there is a problem; it doesn't fix it, only puts it in a different disguise. Talk and talk. Figure it out between you two. Get counseling/third party if best. Money is the leading cause of divorce. It is tough to talk about money. Our money us our money and we wish to do with it what we damn well please. However, you're married, youre on a team.

Do well man. Step up, be the man and lead by example. Your wife will love ya for it.

where was the team spirit when she spent all his money? theres no "I" in team...however there is "ME" but thats besides the point.. and the fact that you were away on business just makes it seem like a bad movie on the lifetime channel..

[ck_taft325is]

Seems like a lot of single guys giving marriage advice.

Two separate accounts still shows there is a problem; it doesn't fix it, only puts it in a different disguise. Talk and talk. Figure it out between you two. Get counseling/third party if best. Money is the leading cause of divorce. It is tough to talk about money. Our money us our money and we wish to do with it what we damn well please. However, you're married, youre on a team.

Do well man. Step up, be the man and lead by example. Your wife will love ya for it.

A-fucking-men.

[ck_taft325is]

truth. if this has happened once before then its a problem. If you cant trust the one youre with then you shouldnt be with that person. No amount of "love" can rebuild it.

although it is cheaper to keep her..well at least in FL it is. Take her on a "vacay" to the grand canyon, i heard its slippery by the edge.;)





where was the team spirit when she spent all his money? theres no "I" in team...however there is "ME" but thats besides the point.. and the fact that you were away on business just makes it seem like a bad movie on the lifetime channel..

You married?

If your answer is no, then you don't understand yet. Furthermore, are you perfect? Ever fucked someone over by being selfish? More than once?

Now imagine that other person is the one you're married too. It happens. You talk and you move beyond it and grow together. Or, you act like you described and become another statistic.

[mrsleeve]

Seems like a lot of single guys giving marriage advice.

Two separate accounts still shows there is a problem; it doesn't fix it, only puts it in a different disguise. Talk and talk. Figure it out between you two. Get counseling/third party if best. Money is the leading cause of divorce. It is tough to talk about money. Our money us our money and we wish to do with it what we damn well please. However, you're married, youre on a team.

Do well man. Step up, be the man and lead by example. Your wife will love ya for it.

No not really, I know lots of very happily married people that have always had 3 accounts 1 for the bills (housing, food, utilities ect... ) and each partner then has their own spending money/saving money.

I know many that just have 1 or 2 totally joint accounts, just depends on the people involved, and what works best for them.

I might as well be married, and we run 2 accounts 1 IS MINE, this is where all my earnings go. then we have a Joint account where we transfer money form one to the other so she has money to do a she see's fit, and pay her bills out of. But she has all the pass words and what not and can move money from 1 to the other as well, I trust her and this system is just how it has worked out the best for US.

For the OP he needs to maintain control of the cash it seems, so this system with out the free access to the other account may work for them until she learns to stay with a given budget and or gets off the "habbits" That is if he wants to keep shit going and try and work though it. OP travels most of the week and is never home at all to keep an eye on things and see what the fuck she is really up too. I feel for him as I do the same but for much more extended periods and if you dont have a spouse that you have 110% Faith and trust in, well lets just say its makes this life style that much harder.


Oh and the leading cause of divorce is ............................ Marriage

[george graves]

You married?

If your answer is no, then you don't understand yet.

You're looking at it all wrong... We're not married cause we're smarter. :D

(Honestly, being married doesn't give you any special insight - that's a load of horse shit)

[325_e30]

You married?

If your answer is no, then you don't understand yet. Furthermore, are you perfect? Ever fucked someone over by being selfish? More than once?

Now imagine that other person is the one you're married too. It happens. You talk and you move beyond it and grow together. Or, you act like you described and become another statistic.

What does being married have to do with trust being the foundation of any type of relationship? If you cant trust someone then you'll always be wondering what they're doing or who they're with and you'll always be second guessing the answers they give you. Who gives a flying fuck about statistics.

Always in doubt is no way to live. I've had joint accounts before, and I've lived with my ex for 10 years before we split. If there isn't trust that shit wont work..period. And you have to be retarded if you think otherwise.