Cliffs - Who has tried online dating? How did it go? Are you killing it? Did your ego get checked? Are you married to the chick now?
In the past 10 years I have experienced significant changes in the way girls react to getting in touch with them. I’m not talking Men are from Mars, I’m literally referring to communicating outside of person-to-person conversation.
When I was in high school, calling a girl at her house was normal. Setting plans a few days in advance was normal. Soon enough, cell phones were the main form of communication between people. Calling the house, was still ok, and making plans with less notice moved to the norm. Shortly after calling someone was popular, texting took precedent as a primary form of communication. Looking back, it seems silly, because lobbing out a text back then wasn’t as easy as it is today. “Hey!” was literally 10 taps of the thumb: 2-H 2-E 3-Y 1+1+1…until you found “!”. Don’t even think about auto-spell, or missing the explanation point – you had to click through the roll call again. Yet people loved texting.
In between the development of the smart phone, facebook experienced a crazy amount of organic growth. Within a few years, if you weren’t in the know on FB for some sort of social event, you weren’t going to call some one’s house to figure out what was going on – because calling a house was no longer appropriate and you’d be the lesser for it.
It all hit me a short time ago. “It” being the new world I live in. I was at a bar, talking to a good looking girl, she was into it we were having fun laughing etc. I literally talked to her for a couple of hours. The foundation and framework of a legit interest were being laid out; dudes were trying to hit on her, she wasn’t having it. I was buying her drinks, she was buying me drinks, we were mixing and mingling with each other’s friends – all was well. Considering how the night was playing out, I figured it was cool to ask for her number before we parted ways. In my experience, most girls would probably be aggravated if you didn’t grab their number after such an engagement. However, when I asked for it, she hesitated and downgraded me to “look me up on facebook”. I didn’t get it. I thought it was a brush off. I didn’t realize facebook was the new “let me get your number”.
Coming out of a 5 year relationship, it was a good slap in the face to prepare me for the new world ahead. I still don’t entirely get it, but that’s ok, I don’t need to. I just have to accept it. Social media is apparently a safe zone and it has become the normal way we communicate with each other. LinkedIn for your professional life, FB for your social life, forums for your hobbies…twitter… pintrest… blogs and what this thread is about: Match.com for your single dating life.
It took me a while to summon a reason to join Match.com. I eventually realized it was the new FB for hitting on women. Poking is now called Winking, and since it is a dating website, all intentions for communication are obvious. However, what I have come to realize, in my short time of using it thus far, is that it trying to meet people online and then in person doesn’t translate as well as meeting someone in person and then viewing their life online. I feel Match.com is an entirely different ball game than other social media for this reason. It has certainly afforded me some entertaining stories. I’ll be happy to explain, but I’ll stop here – who the heck write this much in OT anyways?
So who has tried online dating? How did it go? Are you killing it? Did your ego get checked? Are you married to the chick now?
In the past 10 years I have experienced significant changes in the way girls react to getting in touch with them. I’m not talking Men are from Mars, I’m literally referring to communicating outside of person-to-person conversation.
When I was in high school, calling a girl at her house was normal. Setting plans a few days in advance was normal. Soon enough, cell phones were the main form of communication between people. Calling the house, was still ok, and making plans with less notice moved to the norm. Shortly after calling someone was popular, texting took precedent as a primary form of communication. Looking back, it seems silly, because lobbing out a text back then wasn’t as easy as it is today. “Hey!” was literally 10 taps of the thumb: 2-H 2-E 3-Y 1+1+1…until you found “!”. Don’t even think about auto-spell, or missing the explanation point – you had to click through the roll call again. Yet people loved texting.
In between the development of the smart phone, facebook experienced a crazy amount of organic growth. Within a few years, if you weren’t in the know on FB for some sort of social event, you weren’t going to call some one’s house to figure out what was going on – because calling a house was no longer appropriate and you’d be the lesser for it.
It all hit me a short time ago. “It” being the new world I live in. I was at a bar, talking to a good looking girl, she was into it we were having fun laughing etc. I literally talked to her for a couple of hours. The foundation and framework of a legit interest were being laid out; dudes were trying to hit on her, she wasn’t having it. I was buying her drinks, she was buying me drinks, we were mixing and mingling with each other’s friends – all was well. Considering how the night was playing out, I figured it was cool to ask for her number before we parted ways. In my experience, most girls would probably be aggravated if you didn’t grab their number after such an engagement. However, when I asked for it, she hesitated and downgraded me to “look me up on facebook”. I didn’t get it. I thought it was a brush off. I didn’t realize facebook was the new “let me get your number”.
Coming out of a 5 year relationship, it was a good slap in the face to prepare me for the new world ahead. I still don’t entirely get it, but that’s ok, I don’t need to. I just have to accept it. Social media is apparently a safe zone and it has become the normal way we communicate with each other. LinkedIn for your professional life, FB for your social life, forums for your hobbies…twitter… pintrest… blogs and what this thread is about: Match.com for your single dating life.
It took me a while to summon a reason to join Match.com. I eventually realized it was the new FB for hitting on women. Poking is now called Winking, and since it is a dating website, all intentions for communication are obvious. However, what I have come to realize, in my short time of using it thus far, is that it trying to meet people online and then in person doesn’t translate as well as meeting someone in person and then viewing their life online. I feel Match.com is an entirely different ball game than other social media for this reason. It has certainly afforded me some entertaining stories. I’ll be happy to explain, but I’ll stop here – who the heck write this much in OT anyways?
So who has tried online dating? How did it go? Are you killing it? Did your ego get checked? Are you married to the chick now?
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