Brother In Law's Wedding

[mrcheezle19]

So R3v I'm in a little dilemma and looking for some opinions on what you guys would do. My soon to be brother in law ( I plan on proposing to my girlfriend within the next 6 months or so) is getting married over Labor Day weekend and I am stuck between going to the wedding and going to work. I work in the car business and this is supposedly a huge sale weekend for us. I would be gone for only Sunday and would be there the other 3 days of the sale weekend. My boss is flat out saying no to me going, while this would technically be my weekend off. The labor day weekend is considered "all hands on deck." This wedding to me, serves as a way to get back on track with my girlfriend's brother and father as we had a falling out several years back and I would like to change that, which I feel going to this wedding would help with tremendously. So r3v what would you do? Go to the wedding and risk the job consequences or say sorry to family and probably put myself in a farther separation from my soon to be in laws?

The one thing my boss always uses against me in situations like this is the fact that when they asked for me to come back to work for them I stipulated that I would have 2 days off per week to attend school. I feel it is unjust to use that against me as that was terms of my re-hire in which they were asking for my return and they agreed to those terms.

TLDR; should I attend my soon to be brother in law's wedding and risk the consequences at work?

[dereliiict]

Family is forever.

It is a larger picture question that you are asking and, I feel, that you have already answered it yourself.

You do not need a forum to tell you that Family takes precedence over any, presumably temporary, job.

[edaddy]

yeah dude, take it from an older (slightly....40) guy. Car biz is very unforgiving..i. If it's not this it will be something else less important that gets you canned. Do what you know is right and everything will work out. You do have a bit of time to lime up another gig as well... good luck with it all.

[LJ851]

Go to the wedding.

[Ether-D]

Family is forever.

It is a larger picture question that you are asking and, I feel, that you have already answered it yourself.

You do not need a forum to tell you that Family takes precedence over any, presumably temporary, job.

yeah dude, take it from an older (slightly....40) guy. Car biz is very unforgiving..i. If it's not this it will be something else less important that gets you canned. Do what you know is right and everything will work out. You do have a bit of time to lime up another gig as well... good luck with it all.

Go to the wedding.

Yep.

[mrcheezle19]

Thanks guys I definitely feel going to the wedding is right. The only reason I have been apprehensive is the fact that I have a decent schedule that allows me to work and go to school, which is unheard of in the car business. I'm hoping since 2 people just quit that will play in my favor so even if they did want to blow me out for going, they wouldn't be able to at least for a little while. I'm just stunned at how my boss is so hard set on no. He bailed on us last holiday weekend, yet tries to make it so we all need to be there. Car business I guess.

[anabolice30]

Go to the wedding.

[bikerbill2021]

You can get another job at another dealer easy, especially since you have experience, i see people come and go all the time through my dealer and hear they got a job at so and so's dealer very quickly.

As stated, family is more important, if your boss cant see that this is important to you, then why would you want to work for someone like that?

[mrcheezle19]

Solid points all around. The wedding it is. I'll let you guys know what the outcome is on Monday when I return lol

[rcsoundn1]

Never put work before family. My father does this, for a shit job, and I hate it. I vowed to never let work trump what is truly important.

[Exodus_2pt0]

If your boss punishes you for attending a Family event, then he isn't a boss worth working for.

[Nick_S]

If your boss punishes you for attending a Family event, then he isn't a boss worth working for.

[Stanley Rockafella]

I'm not sure why this is even a question. I mean, if OP really does care for his GF and his life with her, then obviously he should go to the wedding.

How stupid is OP for even asking such a DUMB question? Jobs in the auto industry are a dime a dozen...dealerships cut people all over the place without thinking twice. It's a constant revolving door.

...unless OP really doesn't care to be with his GF. In which case I'd say yes, go to work, to hell with the wedding.

Once upon a time a dated some chic I hated being with.
Why you ask? because I didn't have enough balls to admit that I wanted to break up with her.

Only once we broke up was I able to admit that I really disliked her and the way she treated me. I was young and she was my first REAL relationship and I didn't want us to split...but it was inevitable since I subconsciously (and finally consciously) did things to piss her off.


OP, it doesn't matter what we say, your the one who's going to have to live with the decision.

Good luck!