need gf advice

[VAPORBLADE]

Offer help - if she does not want help - There are other hot chicks that do not do drugs.

[Turf1600]

Ask heeters advice

[mrsleeve]

Well, man you have 2 choices, 1) let her go and find some one else.

2) Remember you cant help some who dose not want to help them selves 1st, if you do care that much for her, you will have too be supportive of her and allow for slip ups as they will happen. On the flip side of that argument you need to make it clear to her that she needs to make a 100% honest effort to stop. That you will not tolerate anything less than a 100% effort because you will be putting a 100% effort in to help her get clean and you expect the same from her.

If she slips ok, but a slip is just that, they dont occur once a day, once a week, or even once a month. Set her up with with a incentive, that if she stays clean for 6 months or a year you will take her on a vacation or some thing else that she will enjoy, that she can think about to get passed the hard times. Also you need to be some one she can trust to lean on or call when necessary. Spend more time with her, encourage a more healthy life style and participate with her, find things you like to do together and do more of them.

Edit: You too may have to give up the party type life style, if thats not something your not willing to do then you might as well drop her, as you cant ask her to do something your not willing to do your self.

Go on short weekend trips to some where to keep her away from her "friends", (pile in your car and hit up the Catskills in NY for hiking, biking, fishing, or just plain driving. I spent every sunday I had off over there last summer hiking in the catskills and only saw a fraction of the park If you need more suggestions let me know) if you make the effort it may work it may not just depends on if she wants to stop. Like I said though you need to make it 100% clear that you will not put with a 1/2 assed effort, if this sounds like too much work for you then drop her and find some one else.

I have had to deal with a similar situation, not with narcotics but with an eating disorder a very very bad deal for her. We have been together 9 years, and still every once in a while she still struggles with it and needs some reassurance.

[Aptyp]

and too think I dumped a girl because she got drunk a few times...


What are you thinking? do you really want a relationship that will cost you everything? Are you that desperate that a cute face will leave you hooked and uncertain?



DUMP NOW, and go pimp cruising in your dirty e30 to pick up another hoe.

[Peterkaczynski]

thanks rhys i just feel betrayed dude, and ive smoked too but i realize that i can get it deep shit for it. so ill have to wait it out and see if shes worth it

[Rhys]

Activ I have been in the exact same situation when my gf asked me to stop blazing. She hated me smoking weed but could see my better qualities, despite repeatedly asking me to stop for her. It is not easy to give up, smoking weed is a lifestlye in itself so your asking her to change her whole lifestyle and the people she hangs out with! I can understand the coke, that shits whack, but weed is really not that bad for you, do some research. Main point is if you love her then see her for the better qualities, just because she is smoking weed now does not mean she will do it for the rest of her life. Maybe wait it out and see what happens. If not then there is tons of other chicks out there, no reason to stress over just one! good luck man

[Peterkaczynski]

i promise maluco lol
and ill try to get her to stop but if she wont it willl be best if we just stop seeing eachother

[Maluco]

will you promise me to not post reposts in the animated gif thread? will you promise to only post one gif per post?

did you not know this chick smoked weed and did lines prior to getting with her? maybe you need to check your own standards. If I'm out to fall in love with a chick/develop a serious relationship, the girl is not going to fuck around with anything... It's hard enough to nurture a relationship without all the unecessary bullshit.

or maybe it's just a phase, considering she is 19, there's alot more to go through...

[Liam]

i told her to choose me or the drugs she said its not easy to stop
"i cant stop out of nowhere, sorry icant do that for you"

She's right it's not easy to stop, let it go.

The last place in the world you want to be is in the wake of that downward spiral.

[Desaevious]

Definitely a cutie, but you'll find some one better if you can score that. Remember, she doesn't need to be the prettiest thing you can find.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NF5XU-k2Vk

[Peterkaczynski]

ill see her tomorrow and well go on a break i honeslty think im really good to her but if she wont do that for me then the best thing to do is end it

[Peterkaczynski]

i told her to choose me or the drugs she said its not easy to stop
"i cant stop out of nowhere, sorry icant do that for you"

[Liam]

Heart breaker if I ever saw one.

[Peterkaczynski]

pics of her

[Liam]

thanks for being here for me guys i think i need to break up with her if its ment to be then she will change if not then ill just have to be more carefull next time

Give it some time and space. Leave the door open a smidge, this could be the thing for her that tips the balance (I said could, don't bank on it).