need gf advice

[TexasTerp]

After reading through this entire thread, and I'm torn over my advice. So first off, to explain my background in this area, I use to be a weed supplier in my last city. I've done weed, coke, acid, ecstasy, mushrooms, and others. I smoked an average of 5 times a day for 2 years and eventually graduated from dealer to full on Supplier. Oh and I'm still struggling with Alcoholism (having a glass of bourbon as I write). I've also been "almost" completely drug free for 2 years.

1. after two months you've definitely over committed yourself and allowed your self to become deeply emotionally attached. Clearly this is a problem because you allowed your infatuation with the girl to over power your logic and reasoning which would normally restrain you from becoming obsessive. I literally just broke up with a girlfriend in March over this exact problem. You are going to push her farther away from you.

2. It is true that with you both being so young and with a relationship in it's infancy, you're not going to have enough of a foundation with her in order to get her to change.

my bottom line is this: This is a phase, and she'll kick out of it eventually. I would dump her, if she really likes you she'll change, if she would rather be with her friends and high, then that's the way it is. She lied to you, and admitted that she lied, she refuses to smoke with you after you offered (which was your compromise to her) and she still refuses to stop. If smoking bothers you so much why are you still with her? Fuck her and get out, don't waste your time.

[E30 Cabrio]

ok yea so emo threads FTL
but i really need advice

so my gf of 2 months likes to smoke bud and did alot before we started dating,and i told her to stop so she did supposidly, last night she told me she haddent stopped so i told her to make me a legit promise that she wont EVER touch it, she promised me she wouldnt & today she tells me "if i promised and broke it would you want me to tell you" i wrote "yes" so she smoked and did coke :(
im so angry i want to hit someone (her so called "friends")
i really do love this girl and i dont know what to do and im honeslty in the slums :(

what should i do?

You need to grow up, that's what you need to do.

You knew she smoked the dank when you started dating her and you tried to force her to quit which will only lead to her resenting you and dumping your ass for being such an insecure, controlling wussy.

If she wants to smoke chronic, just like she did before you two started dating, then what's the problem?

If you can't accept her as she is, then find someone else, grow up, or both.

She's not the problem. You are because you can't accept her for who she is and you are trying to change her.

Guys hate it when women do it to them, and if you want a woman to resent you and end up fucking other guys out of resent, then keep it up.

BTW, I don't smoke bud and don't care for it so I'm not "one of those" type of people, just for the record.

[Yakinho]

my gf of 2 months

i really do love this girl

First mistake............. NEVER say the L word to a girl unless you mean it. I've never said it, and it saved me A LOT of the bullshit that my friends go through. It brings up all the unnecessary emotional stuff that really doesn't need to happen. You don't mean that shit anyways... If she's not listening to what you're saying then stop saying it and stop showing affection when shes high. If the mood really goes south then she knows why. That means no cuddling, kissing, none of that shit until the next day, or you're just going to let her keep walking over you. Unless her weed is laced, then shes not hooked on it, not physically. If she's weak enough to use the "gateway drug" response as to why shes using coke, then you should really consider just saying goodbye. Peer pressure and the "gateway theory" are just shitty excuses for people to do stupid things. She needs to be stronger, and you need to be stronger about dealing with it. You can only help people so much, and if they don't want the help then there's no use wasting your energy.

2 uncles commited suicide for weed so i have absolutely no tolerance for this and when she realized it she left immediately. just use examples of how bad it is for you and how so many have died and maybe it will hit home with her and she will stop.

I don't want to sound mean or anything, but holmes is right, i'm not sure who told you that, but your uncles didn't commit suicide for/because of weed. Alchohal, cocain, heroin, meth, etc... all kill people... Weed does not.

[dirty30]

Pretend to be into her, get steady poon for as long you can and find yourself something nice on the side in your spare time. Don't put much effort into the silly 19yr old that carves the slopes with her nose. Who gives a shit about the weed, half this country is high as it is.

[Ray Smoodiver]

Nothing wrong with a line for breakfast, or over your choice of corn flakes.

[fiercee30]

Go light one up with her, you silly waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles.

-Charlie

charlie i could not agree with you more i am blown right now

[xwill112x]

fuck coke.



pot is good.

;)

[OOMPH!]

dude, its fucking pot. grow some balls you waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles.

"Dude", read the fucking whole thread. It's not just fucking pot, it's coke too. So stfu waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles.

[Stephen]

How serious can the relationship be if they are still teenagers and have only been dating 2 months? Not only that but drugs are involved, the guy is making demands and he claims to "love" her after 2 months. Doesn't sound very serious to me.

Yeah, i guess, i didnt catch that part. But the disagreement, and trust issue still stands, regardless of how short the relationship is.

[Rustyduktape]

dude, its fucking pot. grow some balls you waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles.

[thearkitekt]

step 1: run away screaming

Step 2: move out of jersey

Step 3: ????

Step 4: PROFIT!

[a_thomasmr23]

jersey girls doing coke are a train wreck till about 24-25 then they tend to straighten up or be whores depending on the family money from my experience

[Peterkaczynski]

i actually tried that but she doesnt smoke with someone she is serious with

[Charlie]

Go light one up with her, you silly waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles.

-Charlie

[Peterkaczynski]

pretty much