i think im going to vomit (divorce content)

[s0urce]

Sorry to hear that, sounds like she's fucking another man. Sorry for your loss.

[einstein57]

MY fgiance and i have been together for almost 4 years. After the first couple years she got the feeling i did not love her the same as i used to. The funny thing is i never changed. I consciously made a decision not go out of my way to be nice or pretend to like things i did not in the beginning just so that she could never say i changed. The new feeling just wore off. The best thing i did was to expose her to older couples. People who have been together for over 20 years and don't hold back for anyone. She finally saw how real loving couples gets along and argue. If all she really has to go off of is high school puppy dog love or how she remembered her parents then she might need a new perspective on things. And this might sound weird but every now and then be a dick. Girls get bored of someone who gives them unconditional love all the time. It makes them appreciate you more when you are sweet.

[Farbin Kaiber]

Chick taking parking fees at a meet. He is not as cool as the pic would make him out to be.

[silversleeper]

Damn bro, I hate hearing shit like this. I know how hard it is to go through and I hope everything works out. Stay positive. Talk to her and try and figure out how your marriage came to this point. It's worth fighting for and saving. Good luck.

Going offtopic here... could you explain your sig?

[Turf1600]

You need to get blunt with her and yourself

I have to disagree Dave, I'm not sure a threesome with a geriatric patient will do anything for anyone.

On a more serious note, just let it play out. Don't panic - the truth will reveal it's self. And +100 to what BigD said.

[jrhaile]

I hate to break this news to you, but I would almost guarantee she hasn't been faithful to you bro.

Women don't typically just fall out of love unless they're in love with someone else or have cheated. They won't bring something like this up unless they feel guilty. Most women are content in a relationship so long they're comfortable. I know from experience and have seen MANY of my friends in this type of situation.

The therapy is a way of making herself feel better for something she did wrong. It's helping her cope with the realization that in the end, she tried to make it work. It's a selfish act that women do.

It's a shitty situation and I truly feel sorry for you and I hope I'm wrong, but I would suspect I'm right and your therapy is going to be a rocky eye-opening for you.

Oh final last word... usually there is one person that is stronger than the other in a marriage. For my marriage, it's FOR SURE my wife. If it were up to me, we'd be divroced by now but she's a much stronger (stubborn) person than I am and I thank her for that... sometimes :D

[OOMPH!]

Damn bro, I hate hearing shit like this. I know how hard it is to go through and I hope everything works out. Stay positive. Talk to her and try and figure out how your marriage came to this point. It's worth fighting for and saving. Good luck.

[Kruzen]

Hope everything turns out well buddy, life is not without its rocky boat, your situation sounds similar to alot of people on this board, so know that you're not alone!

Good luck and I hope you and your wife can work things out, stay positive! Dont' give up!

[SpecM]

Dude, that sucks

I'm 22 and married (for two years now) and I know its not easy. Its really hard. I love my wife very VERY much and I know how it is when that "honeymoon" phase passes. Sometimes my wife gets grumpy about the same thing, but women will do that. You have to remember (and I do too!) how important it is to show her that you still love her just as much, just in a deeper way now.

Not that I'm defending her actions or blameing you, cuz I think she is being rather immature and selfish. But marrage is ALWAYS a two way street and is all about comprimise and selfless love.

Hope things look up for you, I really do.

[CAOSyAMOR]

everything was fine in my life yesterday. today wife says she wants to go to a therapist. i ask why, if it has something to do with me we need to talk about it. she starts talking about it and tells me she feels were growing distant and she sees me as just a friend, not someone shes in love with like a wife should. yes it was the dreaded "i love you but im not IN love with you" BS comment.

i am in a state of panic and dunno what to do. i feel like im going to puke. i can say all the things i want but i obviously cant force her to feel a certain way. i cant afford to live where im at now like i used to. i will have to sell everything i have to stay afloat. damn it, we just bought a brand new car together too. looks like the m3 may not make it to the picnic this year, not in my possesion at least (please keep the dibs comments to yourselves for my sake and sanity, thanks).

i love my wife. she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. she had to support me for awhile and ive helped her become a better person since we met. i guess thats not enough for her, but damn it i still love her with all my heart. i want to try to make it work, i want to go to counseling, whatever it takes to get her back.

now im about to go to bed alone, as she went to bed in the spare bedroom. its like weve been in a fight, but not.

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my mind is racing, i feel like ass, im beyond confused and here i am making a emo post on r3v. something i never NEVER thought id do.

This sounds IDENTICAL to a situation I was in just over a year ago.

You may not like what I have to say, but the thing that sets off the alarms in my ears is how she says she is not 'in' love with you and sees you more as a friend. Yes she said she wants to go to therapy, but I'm a strong believer that therapy more often than not comes from within. Also by going to therapy it is a way out for her, she can rationalize her feelings/decisions BECAUSE someone else (the therapist) will enable her. So when it comes down to the crunch she can either be in love with you, or not, but in her mind she 'tried'.

[Maluco]

You may not want to keep reading because this is going to hurt... if she's that kind of person, then it's time to move on. Sure you may guilt her into staying longer but this will happen again. Girls who really understand what love is, and have strong values, in particular values of honor and loyalty, are getting almost impossible to find. Unfortunately the others do not make for good life partners. They all think they are some character on Sex and the City, and they have to follow their heart (which is really their vagina).

I understand what you are getting at but, "that kind of person"? Do you mean the human kind? Who the hell is perfect? Love takes forgiveness and understanding. Maybe she is just going through some things and is confused. She is married, not some divorced or single woman. Why should it be time to "move on". These situations can be surpassed! It's worth fighting for.

[xLibelle]

i got to thinking... thanks for the heads up!!

i just made an appointment to certify my sailing skillz so i can rent a catamaran next month while in the keys with my wifez

[32.5i]

^ Couldn't Have said it any better.

[xwill112x]

Unfortunately, thanks to people's impressionability and the bombardment from TV and cinema, a lot of people have confused having a crush with being in love. No one writes songs or makes movies about real love. It's always that new love, the fresh crush, that keeps you awake at night, gives you butterflies and sweaty palms whenever you're around them. But this is always temporary. And for a lot of people today, usually women, this stage means that they have fallen out of love (especially if they are sexually tempted by someone else and they are reminding them of that giddy feeling, so they feel like they are now in love with them).

You may not want to keep reading because this is going to hurt... if she's that kind of person, then it's time to move on. Sure you may guilt her into staying longer but this will happen again. Girls who really understand what love is, and have strong values, in particular values of honor and loyalty, are getting almost impossible to find. Unfortunately the others do not make for good life partners. They all think they are some character on Sex and the City, and they have to follow their heart (which is really their vagina).

this man speaks truth and wisdom.

[Maluco]

damn, my brother just went through the same thing. However, she also mentioned she wanted to see other people and some other dumb shit. They've been together since high school though. This went on for a good month or two but he never gave up. They went to counseling, and while not all is kosher, they are back together.

Things change and people change. Emotions change and then change again. Don't despair (easier said than done) but just keep loving her and do what can be done to save the marriage.

If all else fails, you have to appreciate the person for being sincere and honest.

I wish you the best.