Even family are all a bunch of ungrateful f**ks

[Pantless Spency]

man i thought i had rough times, sounds like you're getting a load of shit.
it is what it is, tell the woman if shes gonna bitch and gripe and be an ass all day then why does she want to be with you in the first place? tell her her that she creates her own attitude. if she keeps it up tell her your not standing for it and you'll kick her ass out.
but more importantly than anything, good luck and keep your head up man. don't take shit from nobody but be smooth as water, don't break your cool unless its more than necessary

[russhixmo]

Hey man don't feel bad about the fam, u got ur BMW! So what if the sunroof leaks and the heater don't work rite, atleast it's urs and it moves. I come from a shitty family too, mom is a fucking bitch and dad left when I was 3 weeks old and I haven't seen him sence, I've gotten to the point of punching her new bf in the face twice now and smashing out his windows on his car cuz he tried to yell at me and my mom and threatened to hit me so I got to him first and then my mom got mad at mr for defending her so I decided to go to the nxt level and just bust his face open and now I'm on probation for it and the best part is my mom didn't even defend me!! She was on his side!! Like seriously? But moral of the story is life is a bitch when ur not driving ur car.

[Redfox]

It's a shame there aren't more guys who are as kind and selfless as you around. In this case I think she takes your kindness for weakness. I don't know any guy who would give up their smart phone and e30 to drive. I may be selfish to say, but if my guy needed a phone and a car and had the drug problems to boot(whether it be past or present), I would not be letting them have my phone or trust them to drive my e30. I would have dropped him the moment I found out he was stealing and on drugs.

If she disrespects your phone so easily, and admittedly disrespects your car (hitting the dashboard?), why would you keep her around? It is sad to see good guys get caught up with women who think they are entitled to everything and treat everyone around them with utter disrespect and obviously have no regard for her or the people around her. If she acts this way now, can you picture having a family with her? She sounds like the type that will get jealous of the baby or worrying the baby will get more attention than she will. I know its your wife and you love her, but you need to get out of the relationship.

You're harming yourself and your potential children if you stick around with this broad. You deserve a whole hell of a lot better than that. I wouldn't sacrifice that much for any guy that didn't deserve it and hasn't even showed any gratitude or appreciation for me just for simply sticking around with the drug problem. Word of advice, yes she went through rehab, but she will be on drugs again. Relapse for past drug addicts is bound to happen, and just by gathering what you've told us about her personality, she will be back on drugs and will blame you. My father went through the same thing and I watched him slowly kill himself. To this day you cannot hold a coherent conversation with him. He repeats the same things over and over and is simply a walking body without a brain or a soul because of all the drugs he did. I've never seen a drug addict that screwed themselves so bad before, and unfortunately the one I did see is my father.


You are better off finding someone who is clean, is also kind and giving, and simply has goals and aspirations in life. I grew up watching my father snort coke and take me with on drug rounds. My mother eventually left him when I was around 4 and it was the best decision she ever made. She is successful in her business and a lot happier than she would have ever been staying with my father, who actually is a lot like your girlfriend. You deserve a lot better than to be treated the way you are being treated. Of course it is your decision, and only your decision.

EDIT: Happy?

[Todd Black 88]

Being a totally unqualified, bach of psych drop out, take this with a grain of salt.

What i did retain from those years in school is..............




PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE!!!

Our personalities are hardwired into us. We don't have a choice in the matter anymore. We can try to change, and at times can ACT differently, but in times of difficulty and repetitive life we WILL revert back to our "normal" self. If she is like this now, she will ALWAYS be like this.

If its not your thing to live this way the rest of your life with her this way, make a change.

[z31maniac]

Thank you everyone for tactfully expounding upon my thoughts.

But seriously, GTFO.

[Vince30]

Take your hand and reach around behind your back, feel the bumpy thing that runs from top to bottom, that is a spine, use it.

I have never quoted someone in my sig but that was awesome.

[Todd Black 88]

I cant read this, it hurts my head.

It's a shame there aren't more guys who are as kind and selfless as you around. In this case I think she takes your kindness for weakness. I don't know any guy who would give up their smart phone and e30 to drive. I may be selfish to say, but if my guy needed a phone and a car and had the drug problems to boot(whether it be past or present), I would not be letting them have my phone or trust them to drive my e30. I would have dropped him the moment I found out he was stealing and on drugs. If she disrespects your phone so easily, and admittedly disrespects your car (hitting the dashboard?), why would you keep her around? It is sad to see good guys get caught up with women who think they are entitled to everything and treat everyone around them with utter disrespect and obviously have no regard for her or the people around her. If she acts this way now, can you picture having a family with her? She sounds like the type that will get jealous of the baby or worrying the baby will get more attention than she will. I know its your wife and you love her, but you need to get out of the relationship. You're harming yourself and your potential children if you stick around with this broad. You deserve a whole hell of a lot better than that. I wouldn't sacrifice that much for any guy that didn't deserve it and hasn't even showed any gratitude or appreciation for me just for simply sticking around with the drug problem. Word of advice, yes she went through rehab, but she will be on drugs again. Relapse for past drug addicts is bound to happen, and just by gathering what you've told us about her personality, she will be back on drugs and will blame you. My father went through the same thing and I watched him slowly kill himself. To this day you cannot hold a coherent conversation with him. He repeats the same things over and over and is simply a walking body without a brain or a soul because of all the drugs he did. I've never seen a drug addict that screwed themselves so bad before, and unfortunately the one I did see is my father. You are better off finding someone who is clean, is also kind and giving, and simply has goals and aspirations in life. I grew up watching my father snort coke and take me with on drug rounds. My mother eventually left him when I was around 4 and it was the best decision she ever made. She is successful in her business and a lot happier than she would have ever been staying with my father, who actually is a lot like your girlfriend. You deserve a lot better than to be treated the way you are being treated. Of course it is your decision, and only your decision.

[slammin.e28]

I have never quoted someone in my sig but that was awesome.

There's a guy here at work going through a divorce and I was about to tell him this...but he's already pretty pissed....

[der affe]

i did that to a female friend of mine a few weeks ago when she was bitching about not going out because her BF did not want to meet me and some friends for a meal.

i reached back behind her and said, "yep, it feels like you have a spine...let me check again.....yep, it is definately there"
"you know you could have just met us there and let him stay home and watch football"

[StereoInstaller1]

I just got rid of my GF of 7 years.

Same fucking thing. I supported her for many years and when she got a decent job, she split.

Fuck that selfish bullshit. Send her the fuck home, keep records of all the shit she did, DIVORCE her ass, take some time to heal and get on with your life.

Most of all look at yourself, figure out why you have put up with so much shit. Then, don't let it happen again!

Good luck.

Luke

[b*saint]

O the update is I expressed my feelings to her and she agreed she needs to be more grateful for what she is provided right now. Since then its been a lot better. She doesn't complain in front of me about stupid shit I already know is broken.

[der affe]

to put it in to perspective, she should not complain AT ALL.

Read my entire post on the last page and let it soak in for a bit.

[Kershaw]

show her this thread.

also, people do not change over a small discussion. in the short term, they might get better for a bit. but give her 2 months..

she needs something really big to change her in a big way. like leaving her. you'd be doing her a favor. she might actually start to improve her own life.

[Atreus]

is this the same girl from the other posts? like a year ago or something?

damn.

[Redfox]

Don't mean to sound like a naysayer, but you seem to keep putting a band aid on the problem.. She isn't going to change, you are simply going to be a doormat my dude. If you are going to continue to make threads bitching about her and then the next day you kiss and make up, then don't ask for advice you know? It's a waste of everyone's time to read and give you advice if you keep jumping sides.

Look at her history, generally it repeats itself.. Which is pretty prevalent that it will repeat itself seeing as how just in this past year she has already shown repetitive negative behaviors already in such a short time span. I foresee her milking you and using you up and tossing you out when she finds a new boy toy or needs a new drug fix and some guy can offer it to her. I have seen it happen to a couple who was together for over 20 years. You really need to look at everything in retrospect and think about the future. How will she be treating you 5 years from now if her personality is the same it is today? 10 years? 20? Once again, it's your decision but I am willing to bet against all odds you are going to be a very miserable man if this cycle doesn't stop.