Well real parenting is not dead

[Jand3rson]

What ever, I guess I'm glad I have been over here for too many years if that is a sign of what intelligent people do.

Oh, well I'm glad you think you've been there for long enough to talk down to those of us that still live over here in the ol' Podunk States of Backwater America.

Especially those of us that don't disagree with what he did.

[StinkE30]

I enjoyed the video...

Entertaining? Yes.
Effective? Probably.
What I would do? Absolutely not.

[87e30]

I think this was foolish and immature on the Dad's part. He's upset and we are giving him slack for stumbling due to his anger, you don't think kids say things foolishly when they are upset? Who knows the context that she decided to write this statement in. Granted she should not have done this, but there has to be a root to her problem that was created years ago, taking away everything now will likely just cause long term resentment and impede on a strong relationship in my opinion. When parents put down the power trip and come at kids on their level it gets a whole like more effective.

[mikeedler]

Oh, well I'm glad you think you've been there for long enough to talk down to those of us that still live over here in the ol' Podunk States of Backwater America.

Especially those of us that don't disagree with what he did.

well, maybe you need to get out there and see the rest of the world if you think that is a sign of intelligence too. I'm not talking down on anybody-hell, I was a pot smoking burnout in high school with a total deadend future without the military to guide me in a better direction- but it doesn't take much to see what is smart and not so smart when you look from farther away. As a father I hope you don't feel you need to raise your children that way. My whole point to the fact is that you do not need to prove yourself as an adult to a bunch of 15 y/o kids on facebook.

shit, wake the hell up.

P.S. my 12y/o daughter is my best friend in the world(besides my wife)- some crap like that should never ever need to happen.

[ohthejosh]

well, maybe you need to get out there and see the rest of the world if you think that is a sign of intelligence too. I'm not talking down on anybody-hell, I was a pot smoking burnout in high school with a total deadend future without the military to guide me in a better direction- but it doesn't take much to see what is smart and not so smart when you look from farther away. As a father I hope you don't feel you need to raise your children that way. My whole point to the fact is that you do not need to prove yourself as an adult to a bunch of 15 y/o kids on facebook.

shit, wake the hell up.

P.S. my 12y/o daughter is my best friend in the world(besides my wife)- some crap like that should never ever need to happen.

I think what the guy did was exactly what was needed to be done in his situation. It's not gonna work for every spoiled pre-teen and teen but I think after reading what he read for a second time he finally realized his previous parenting methods were not working and drastic changes needed to happen. We will never know if this was truly effective or not but I'm sure it was.

Point of this video should be, that parenting is no joke and it aint easy.
Your kids should respect you and recognize authority but that also does not mean you can't be close knit with them.
Mike I like that you are best-friends with your 12 yr old daughter but what my
parents told me is that its okay to develop a trusting and open fun relationship with your children but also do not get too friendly and keep the sense of authority. Kids need to recognize you as a parent first (best)friend second.

I have no kids so I may or may not be talking gibberish.

[Dozyproductions]

well, maybe you need to get out there and see the rest of the world if you think that is a sign of intelligence too. I'm not talking down on anybody-hell, I was a pot smoking burnout in high school with a total deadend future without the military to guide me in a better direction- but it doesn't take much to see what is smart and not so smart when you look from farther away. As a father I hope you don't feel you need to raise your children that way. My whole point to the fact is that you do not need to prove yourself as an adult to a bunch of 15 y/o kids on facebook.

shit, wake the hell up.

P.S. my 12y/o daughter is my best friend in the world(besides my wife)- some crap like that should never ever need to happen.

So euro. My parents are Polish and they, and the rest of the family, would of just beaten the shit out of me. This stuff happens no matter where you are in the world.

[rwh11385]

Parents who privilege their children without condition (vast difference between unconditional love and spoiling without them earning it or if they are nasty little snots) is the worst thing they can do for them. Sure, they think that they need to be coddled and given iPads to learn and grow, but they also need rules and repercussions to keep them in line and prepare them for the real world. There's no rule that you have to give kids a smart phone and computer of their own. The trophy generation is evidence that rewarding them for nothing is unhealthy for their future.

I like the father reminding the daughter that her things were given to her by him and could be reclaimed for bad behavior, although the destruction was wasteful. Sleeve's "earning back" would have been better. However, the act and video went viral and raised discussion about parenting and spoiling which is good, even if he didn't do it for attention according to him.

It's clear when I look across my friends, and compare those with meager upbringings but strong family values versus those born into wealth and privilege, the ones with less are generally much harder workers and now have more, while the private school'ed ones have more trouble adjusting to the real world and frustrated by life. Even under the same roof, an elder child might have been raised more strictly and the younger one spoiled, so to adult life outcomes are far contrasting. I did additional chores to earn $ and saved it in a bank account over a long time to buy a game boy when I was in elementary school, while my sister just whined and begged until she got what she wanted.

Even if your kids are your best friends, it is in their interest that you hold them accountable. You won't allow your friends to take advantage of you, not respect you, and walk all over you, so don't do the same for your kids. I thought my parents were strict and jerks at some point in life, but now greatly thankful for the way I was raised and it's greatly benefited me. I am much more prone to drive my own success than those who were given what they wanted. You can see this as well with the rise of Occupy, where kids who have always gotten their way are not used to having to work for their own ends. To them, government is their grown-up coddling parent.

[Kershaw]

guns and anger should never be together. setting a great example for his kids.

but it was entertaining.

[lambo]

lol...do not want to see him when he finds a guy screwing his daughter :O