Hello R3v, I have a situation here, need some enlightment/advise. This issue has been bothering me for weeks (almost a month now). Warning: Long Story
Almost a month ago, I was at my GF's place and we went to her Uncle's Birthday. I have a good relationship with my GF's family. Everyone was there. So we went home to their place along with her mom and grandma. Her dad and other sibling stayed at the party. I decided to stay a while before other family members come home. So I stayed at the couch and had a nap before travelling 40 miles home and its around 12 midnight. After a while, family came home. I heard them come but due to me being dog tired that day and having 2 hr sleep per day for the past week, I was in no strength to stand and greet. Her dad was cool with that. Anyways, I just continued my nap. After a while, I felt people surrounding me and "planning to wake me up". I later found out the people "planning" were the gfs' 2 siblings, and one of the siblings friend (i know the kid, cool kid). The two siblings and friend are at their late teens. The reason of them wanting to wake me up is so that they could "road test" the car I was driving that day, and it was my mothers, just traded cars with her for the day. And by that time it was already 2 am..
So instead of waking up, and saying "No, not now" (Im the type of person who finds it hard to say No to people), I just decided to continue my sleep and ignore them. Its hard to sleep but I just pretended. It was not like they were shaking me out of sleep. Anyways, it lasted for a good 10 to 15 mins. Then they eventually called the gf to try to wake me and get the keys. The gf was hesitant, and the kids kept on saying "do it for the family". So she gave in.
So this is where the shit starts. They tried playing jokes on my "sleeping" self, which really are offensive, because they were not like this when Im awake.
So the reasons for not letting them drive it that time are:
1. Its fucking 2am in the morning and cops are everywhere in their area.
2. I have stuff in the cargo area that needs special care while driving.
3. I can hear their friend saying, "no, its ok, we can ask him next time when hes awake."
Then, I woke and grab my pocket for the keys to hand to the gf, and to my surprise they already have it, most likely i left it in the table next to me. I just lay down and closed my eyes again. They were saying to the gf they will only take it a block and turn back.
Off they go.. I "woke up" and said that im leaving, and the gf said "remember you gave the keys to the kids so that they could road test the car?"..
After 20 mins, here they come. I just got the keys, gave them a plain half hearted smile and left. They knew I was kinda pissed.
The gf called me, we talked about it. She understood that it was not the best time to do at that time... And this is where it gets messed up, the worst thing anyone can do to me is to LIE. I asked the gf, did you do anything foolish to me while I was a sleep with me even stating examples which is exactly what they did, and she said no, swearing by everything important to her. I kept myself sane and let the days pass.
After a few days, gf came and visited me, and thats where I told her I know everything that happened, and that I was not sleeping that time. By that time she knows that i caught her lying... And she knows thats a No No.
I love my mothers car, was planning to buy it off her hands as soon as I finish with my own car payments in a few months time. A lot of good memories and Im kinda sentimental lol. But now, due to what happened I have no attachment of whatsoever to the car, I cant barely look at it. It reminds me of the recent event.
Gf knows my side and already spoken to them about it. She understood it (shes in her late 20's, so supposedly more mature?) that they fucked up, specially her. I feel that shes really sorry about it. Though one of the siblings is now questioning my actions, and have no remorse on what happened.
The funny thing is, I switch cars with my mother whenever I need a big car when Im with the GF's family. So its not as if they dont see/ride and drive it. And not to mention their dad have THE SAME CAR as my moms.Ive been very sharing to them with what I have, I even lend my e30 to the sibling for weeks.
When you reach this part, I know you must already have eye strain lol. Anyways, R3v, how would you guys deal with this situation? How can this matter be resolved? How would you handle the aftermath? I love the guys to death but this really got into me.
Thanks for reading and drive in good health. :-)
Almost a month ago, I was at my GF's place and we went to her Uncle's Birthday. I have a good relationship with my GF's family. Everyone was there. So we went home to their place along with her mom and grandma. Her dad and other sibling stayed at the party. I decided to stay a while before other family members come home. So I stayed at the couch and had a nap before travelling 40 miles home and its around 12 midnight. After a while, family came home. I heard them come but due to me being dog tired that day and having 2 hr sleep per day for the past week, I was in no strength to stand and greet. Her dad was cool with that. Anyways, I just continued my nap. After a while, I felt people surrounding me and "planning to wake me up". I later found out the people "planning" were the gfs' 2 siblings, and one of the siblings friend (i know the kid, cool kid). The two siblings and friend are at their late teens. The reason of them wanting to wake me up is so that they could "road test" the car I was driving that day, and it was my mothers, just traded cars with her for the day. And by that time it was already 2 am..
So instead of waking up, and saying "No, not now" (Im the type of person who finds it hard to say No to people), I just decided to continue my sleep and ignore them. Its hard to sleep but I just pretended. It was not like they were shaking me out of sleep. Anyways, it lasted for a good 10 to 15 mins. Then they eventually called the gf to try to wake me and get the keys. The gf was hesitant, and the kids kept on saying "do it for the family". So she gave in.
So this is where the shit starts. They tried playing jokes on my "sleeping" self, which really are offensive, because they were not like this when Im awake.
So the reasons for not letting them drive it that time are:
1. Its fucking 2am in the morning and cops are everywhere in their area.
2. I have stuff in the cargo area that needs special care while driving.
3. I can hear their friend saying, "no, its ok, we can ask him next time when hes awake."
Then, I woke and grab my pocket for the keys to hand to the gf, and to my surprise they already have it, most likely i left it in the table next to me. I just lay down and closed my eyes again. They were saying to the gf they will only take it a block and turn back.
Off they go.. I "woke up" and said that im leaving, and the gf said "remember you gave the keys to the kids so that they could road test the car?"..
After 20 mins, here they come. I just got the keys, gave them a plain half hearted smile and left. They knew I was kinda pissed.
The gf called me, we talked about it. She understood that it was not the best time to do at that time... And this is where it gets messed up, the worst thing anyone can do to me is to LIE. I asked the gf, did you do anything foolish to me while I was a sleep with me even stating examples which is exactly what they did, and she said no, swearing by everything important to her. I kept myself sane and let the days pass.
After a few days, gf came and visited me, and thats where I told her I know everything that happened, and that I was not sleeping that time. By that time she knows that i caught her lying... And she knows thats a No No.
I love my mothers car, was planning to buy it off her hands as soon as I finish with my own car payments in a few months time. A lot of good memories and Im kinda sentimental lol. But now, due to what happened I have no attachment of whatsoever to the car, I cant barely look at it. It reminds me of the recent event.
Gf knows my side and already spoken to them about it. She understood it (shes in her late 20's, so supposedly more mature?) that they fucked up, specially her. I feel that shes really sorry about it. Though one of the siblings is now questioning my actions, and have no remorse on what happened.
The funny thing is, I switch cars with my mother whenever I need a big car when Im with the GF's family. So its not as if they dont see/ride and drive it. And not to mention their dad have THE SAME CAR as my moms.Ive been very sharing to them with what I have, I even lend my e30 to the sibling for weeks.
When you reach this part, I know you must already have eye strain lol. Anyways, R3v, how would you guys deal with this situation? How can this matter be resolved? How would you handle the aftermath? I love the guys to death but this really got into me.
Thanks for reading and drive in good health. :-)
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