trying to salvage what you can. RUH ROH divorce

[jintermont]

As of a few hours ago the wedding band came off the finger tonight and am looking at the prospect of being a "free agent", For the first time in 5 years, 2 we were married but after fighting damn near everyday and going through a few personal and marriage counsellors . The wife and have come to the conclusion that we aren't in love or happy either way anymore so are getting divorced. Now my slight dilemma im 25 going through all kinds of medical shit, Crohn's disease which can be quite painful and embarrassing add to the fact that I grew up in a sheltered christian household though you wouldn't think it with the way I talk/act/think. My thing is I have only ever been 1 real relationship and her being it ive only slept with her. So I could use some pointers on maybe best places to meet/mingle since I was never really a club/bar guy?
also not to sound like an ass but im 6 foot 2 230lbs and stayed consistent but at first she was 346 lbs and dropped down to 165 lbs in 2 yrs she is 5 foot 10 btw but in the last 6-7 months she jumped back to 285. Is it wrong of me to want someone skinnier ? sorry the dump post

Also not necessarily looking for anything major relationship status but wouldn't mind a hook up now and then

thanks
josh
IF YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH ME ON FACEBOOK PLEASE DON'T MENTION IT ON MY WALL YET

[Roysneon]

Dude I went through something slightly similar recently.

Do not worry about meeting and mingling. Explore your interests, step out of your comfort zone, try new things. Ever seen the movie 'Yes man'? Be more like that. Don't do anything stupid or damaging but if an oppourtunity comes up, take it. I'm sure you're still dealing with lots of feels having to do with your ex and will be for a while, so someone else will only complicate that and it wouldn't be fair to the new woman.

IMO there's nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone that you feel more physically attracted to. If someone thinner is what you like, then why feel bad about that? I'll admit that I'm more superficial than I have any real right to be, to the point that I'd walk no matter how much I liked someone if they didn't do it for me in that way.

You gotta do you right now, het out of your zone. If it feels like starting over that's because it is, now is the time to decide if you want it to be exactly the same or do something different in your life.

[jintermont]

all true thanks man my first priority is getting my health better too as the doctors think I might have lupus too, then a new "E30" had to sell my 318 sedan in september to get "our" new apartment . being with her I slowly lost contact with most of my friends as she was a "Higher Class" due to her having a masters degree vs My GoodEnoughDegree. I am back at my childhood home time-being . You can internet flick me ive not seen it.

[jintermont]

and i loved her for her and saw past the weight but we are on our 3rd boxspring all have been crushed/blownout in 4 months
just before we started going out 346lbs

6 Months into the relationship

bridal shower lowest weight 160lbs 2 years in

my wedding

and one pic of me in the center with alex"albuquerque30" on the left and james"dagamusNM" on the right. yes im throwing the shocker. yeah I got faded that night

my friends wedding may of 2012 about 180lbs

2012 xmas party 215lbs

another friends wedding on oct 27 2013 280ish

one with my ugly mug

[Roysneon]

I'm sorry dude but reading that was lulworthy.

[ButtJuice]

I'm sorry dude but reading that was lulworthy.

But seriously,

Rekindle friendships and go party. And don't get married for another 5 years. And don't date pretentious cows.

Buy another e30 and get layed.


Lulz

[slammin.e28]

Buy another e30 and get laid.


Lulz

;)

[ttrousdell]

and i loved her for her and saw past the weight but we are on our 3rd boxspring all have been crushed/blownout in 4 months

I feel like a dick asking but is this a joke?

[jintermont]

But seriously,

Rekindle friendships and go party. And don't get married for another 5 years. And don't date pretentious cows.

Buy another e30 and get layed.


Lulz

Thats why I love R3V. I think back we first started going I never had much confidence so I just settled with what I knew I could get,which wasn't much.plus its sad when like 9 out of 10 "intimate relations " are with "Rosy red" lol.

All joking aside the boxspring breakage was NOT due sex or jumping lol that actually makes me laugh plus the mattress is fucking tempurpedic to top it off!
plus its shitty when your wife won't do anything but missionary and HATES oral either way. Nor is she adventurous at all she is 2nd/3rd grade private school teacher. Due to health issues I have my medical card and have to smoke everyday and she is narc status Anti-Drug. I would like someone who I could smoke with.

[jintermont]

ttrousdell i wish it was. im on my ps3 atm ill post something interesting later stay posted

[jintermont]

the boxsprings always caved in on her side only

[z31maniac]

Not sure if serious, or brilliant troll

[Roysneon]

Not sure if serious, or brilliant troll

I'm starting to wonder myself

Either way, OP it seems like you totally should not have gotten married. Go talk to some girls, go to shows, go to car events, go to restaurants, just get out there, be confident. You don't have to start a big conversation, just talk to cute women that you interact with a little more than absolutely needed. A little bit of attention back will boost the confidence.

[flyboyx]

my dad gave me some advice when i was in college: he said that when you are in a relationship/married, sooner or later you are going to fight. he said that no matter what the argument is about, you as a couple can get past it as long as both of you want to.

it sounds to me like you/she are past the point of wanting to. there is nothing to feel guilty about there. its time to move on. that is all. it sounds like you are pretty miserable right now and that is to be expected in your situation. you can't make anyone else happy until you make yourself happy. some chick isn't going to "make" you happy. you need to find happiness from within to have a successful relationship. it will never work in the long run otherwise...... just go fuck a few chicks until you find yourself again. call it a band aid for loneliness.


you don't need to be in a relation"shit" to get laid. have a chick friend that you trust help you make an online profile and internet date. i have friends that do this and they are banging a different chick every week.

you should join a crossfit program. it will kick your ass but very soon you will feel fantastic about yourself. there are always really hot chicks in those classes too. supposedly, this is the "new" internet dating hookup for the 2010's. i also have lots of friends who are banging ultra hotties from this method. unfortunately, one of them happens to be my sister in law's husband. (another story)

ain't nothing wrong with your johnson making love to "miss michigan" every now and then.

[blunttech]

and i loved her for her and saw past the weight but we are on our 3rd boxspring all have been crushed/blownout in 4 months

lol holy shit. I feel like a fucking asshole but tears are running down my face