Similar situation myself..
Here's a little back ground to start, I grew up in small town Iowa and hated it but dreamed of moving to the PNW.
Fast forward a few years and I moved to Portland, OR and had a very successful interview for a job I knew I would eventually grow to hate, but I needed a job in order to continue paying rent... Decided overnight to pack my shit and move to Austin, Tx where I heard the job market was great , the city has lots to do, and I already had friends/connections.
Ive now lived in Austin for about 13 months and I love this city but I'm in a very similar situation as I was in Portland. I'm burnt out of working two jobs (55-60hrs a week) and honestly I've come to realize that living in this part of the country isn't for me (Central Texas is a long way from anywhere). One of my current jobs just had an ideal position open up that I'd really enjoy to have but I know that I'm just not happy here in Texas. So I'm now in the process of saving my money and preparing to pack my shit up again, this time I'm heading back to the West Coast, where I have a supporting group of friends waiting for my arrival.
I couldn't be more stoked! Of course I'm super nervous about starting over AGAIN and even a little worried about trying to get settled in somewhere new, but I know that you don't grow as a person unless you get outside of your comfort zone every once in awhile.
If there's even a little bit of you that thinks you'll be better off somewhere else I suggest you run with it. There is no reason to stick around and wonder what if? Why not make a change and find out for yourself?
I know I'm in a little bit of a different situation than you are so maybe it's easier said than done but I really recommend that you go with gut. As you can see, Ive made the jump twice so far.. It doesn't always work out but I know that I'm happier where I am now than if I had never tried.
FYI I'm 25 , single, and luckily haven't gained much in debt so far which has allowed me some creative freedom in where/how I live. But I know that Ive got to come up with a real plan soon, I just couldn't see myself staying somewhere I wasn't happy just because I needed to start a career.
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The kid in me thinks that would be super fun..
The young adult in me says "but you are making good money in Software."
The old fart in me says "Listen to the kid in you!"
I never thought I would be in software, and only got in to it after talking with the husband of a friend of my wife's. At the time I was in radio and thought that was were my career would stay. Make more money now, and though the current job isn't all that I want it to be, I know I can find better fitting opportunities down the road.
Plus, you gotta do what's right for you and your family.
There's a lot of benefit to being closer to relatives. I don't know how many times I have heard people who left their home town to move to Portlandia and complain about the cost of babysitting and what not. More often then not, grandparents living near = free/discounted child care! :)
Do what you gotta do. Just because one job seems like the best job ever, doesn't mean you can't find the another good one down the road.
PS - Don't move to Portland, we are full.Leave a comment:
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what is the penalty for breaking your lease? if it is only paying a months rent, i would say go for it. you can live cheaper in nc and i think its a better lifestyle than florida. probably better jobs too. have you looked around in your area? i bet there is something for you around there that pays better. even if it sucks ass, its probably ok to do for the next 6 months until your lease is up.Leave a comment:
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I'm asking a similar question at this very moment... we should both move to Virginia.
But to answer yours, if you have the attitude for it, I would always choose the opportunity to move up in my field over staying with the same group of people based on familiarity. It's your life, not theirs. Whose to say you won't meet new people and move up in that new group? And you can always use the family business as a reference.Leave a comment:
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That's exactly what I'm about to do. I have a job that pays above average for this area, I get to work in a climate controlled office and am always comfortable, and I love the city I live in. But I can't stand the work and know that I need a change, so I'm going to follow my GF to wherever she goes to school. (I still need to replay to that thread and thank everyone for their advice)
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When it came time for a job, I moved where I was needed. Granyed, not family to haul along at the time. Money is only a part of the big equation. Schools and community for the family situation.. safety... not sure how Florida treats you in that regard...
Only recently did I encourage term in short order two parts managers that made it out to be a pretty lucrative and cut throat type of position. One guy was contacted by a Ford dealer, stealing him away from 15 years at Toyota with an offer he couldn't refuse.
Don't go burning bridges!!
I wish you the best and trust you will do whatever is necessary to make the family prosper.Leave a comment:
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I left a shop with a friend, dream situation but my wife got pregnant and we just couldn't wait any longer for things to happen.
I put my resume on career builder and put in that I was looking for a career change and willing to travel.
A few weeks later I got a call asking if I wanted to move to Virginia and take a temp-to-hire position working on Passenger trains. I never thought about that as a career, but I figured it sounded interesting and I was sick of wrenching on cars.
Talked with the wife, and went for it. Best decision I ever made! Going on 3 years now and I have managed to climb from the bottom, to now being the lead guy on the day shift. (No supervisor, so I'm like a supervisor who works for a living.)
I found my calling by sticking my thumb out and hoping for the best. I am thankful every day for taking the plunge.
If you haven't already found your calling, you won't find it by holding back.Leave a comment:
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I remember a while back a member here was in the same situation. tried really hard to do interviews over the phone and eventually found a promising job where he wanted to move and went through with it.
really wish I remembered who it was man...Leave a comment:
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Ever left a good job to move out of state?
Well, if you have, please chime in (I'll give you a little background):
I am living in what people who make over $100k a year "paradise", but to working class stiffs like myself who make much less than that, it is a seasonal trap where I am slammed 5 months out of the year and scraping by the remaining 7 months. I'm ready to pack up and move. I already have my mind set on Charlotte, NC or the surrounding area (family is up there, plus I see more opportunities), but a current rent lease is holding me back which isn't up for another solid 6-7 months.
I've got a family to raise and down here it is slow work-wise during the summer. My fiance went back to work not too long ago because of the tremendous hike of prices in the housing market. (look up Naples, FL; it's the most overpriced and overrated market in the entire country right now). Come summer time, she will be laid off and to add a bit of salt, those months I am struggling as well. I work at a good job at a family owned dealership where my efforts are much appreciated and I am held in an above manner regard. Although I don't make a killing, it is still good for what I do. Within a year and 5 months, I was promoted from a regular parts counterman to assistant manager, so my work ethic is normally above par of what many companies expect. I oversee a few people, but the raise was meager and I feel that I can make more in another place.
Has anyone done the same or even similar to what I plan on doing? I know everyone lives paycheck to paycheck, but has it ever gotten so bad that you had to pack up, move out of state, start new and it finally felt like you had a real life with goals?
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