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Last October I sent a fb message to a gf I dated back in hs wishing her a happy birthday. We actually dated twice (both times I called it off). I recall having really good telephone conversations with her back in hs (before the days of texting). When we got together, I just wasn't attracted to her (yeah, I know...shallow teenage mind).
She responded recently and we've been in contact via text for the past few days. She's still a little more "husky" (as always) but regardless I have no interest in pursuing anything with her. She mentioned that she recently got divorced from her ex and that shortly after they split she got with some other dude who got her pregnant (first baby for her, she never thought she'd be able to have kids due to some uterus disease). After he found out he was going to be a father he split. She said she didn't want to bother with trying to make something work with him, especially since he "freaked out". Obviously this guy would be able to provide for her and his baby while she's pregnant...making it easier on her and the baby.
When I met her back in the summer of grade 9-10, she was living with her mom and her mom was having a rough time raising three kids on her own. The whole situation didn't see right to me, so regardless I split before I got too involved (about three months).
So here we are roughly 20 years later and now she's pregnant and refuses to try any make anything work with either of her ex's
I was going to ask if she's aware of the pattern she's set out for herself and how similar it is to the one her mom was in, but I'd feel terrible about guilt-tripping someone who's finally happy to be a mother.
I think that subconsciously she put herself into this situation after observing her mom in the same situation while growing up.
Last October I sent a fb message to a gf I dated back in hs wishing her a happy birthday. We actually dated twice (both times I called it off). I recall having really good telephone conversations with her back in hs (before the days of texting). When we got together, I just wasn't attracted to her (yeah, I know...shallow teenage mind).
She responded recently and we've been in contact via text for the past few days. She's still a little more "husky" (as always) but regardless I have no interest in pursuing anything with her. She mentioned that she recently got divorced from her ex and that shortly after they split she got with some other dude who got her pregnant (first baby for her, she never thought she'd be able to have kids due to some uterus disease). After he found out he was going to be a father he split. She said she didn't want to bother with trying to make something work with him, especially since he "freaked out". Obviously this guy would be able to provide for her and his baby while she's pregnant...making it easier on her and the baby.
When I met her back in the summer of grade 9-10, she was living with her mom and her mom was having a rough time raising three kids on her own. The whole situation didn't see right to me, so regardless I split before I got too involved (about three months).
So here we are roughly 20 years later and now she's pregnant and refuses to try any make anything work with either of her ex's
I was going to ask if she's aware of the pattern she's set out for herself and how similar it is to the one her mom was in, but I'd feel terrible about guilt-tripping someone who's finally happy to be a mother. I think that subconsciously she put herself into this situation after observing her mom in the same situation while growing up.
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