The subconscious mind is a powerful thing

[roguetoaster]

Ha, ha, idiot.

The cycle only breaks when someone dies unexpectedly.

[supermansocks95]

1) Naw, she don't have any pride. She's straight up redneck.

2) Agreed!

Lol actually I have seen that rednecks usually have A LOT of pride.

[Stanley Rockafella]

1)She's probably just offended that the baby daddy split and has too much pride to take any help from him.
2)As for the ex-husband, if my baby momma got pregnant from some dude and asked for help from me to help her raise it, she could fuck off.

1) Naw, she don't have any pride. She's straight up redneck.

2) Agreed!

[supermansocks95]

She's probably just offended that the baby daddy split and has too much pride to take any help from him. As for the ex-husband, if my baby momma got pregnant from some dude and asked for help from me to help her raise it, she could fuck off.

[Stanley Rockafella]

It just seems too similar to the situation she was raised in to be a mere coincidence.

I see it more as a repeated pattern. Not sure if she even recognizes this, or the problem with it (I mean I'm sure the baby daddy would be cool with helping at least financially).

[Kershaw]

Yeah, she's just avoiding baby daddy issues.

[Exodus_2pt0]

Or she just got pregnant and doesn't feel like having baby daddy issues.

I agree, the subconscious is very powerful. It's the kind of thing that causes self destructive behavior when you aren't satisfied in life, forcing you to make the change that you won't make yourself.

I don't think this is one of those things though.

[Stanley Rockafella]

Not Spam

Last October I sent a fb message to a gf I dated back in hs wishing her a happy birthday. We actually dated twice (both times I called it off). I recall having really good telephone conversations with her back in hs (before the days of texting). When we got together, I just wasn't attracted to her (yeah, I know...shallow teenage mind).

She responded recently and we've been in contact via text for the past few days. She's still a little more "husky" (as always) but regardless I have no interest in pursuing anything with her. She mentioned that she recently got divorced from her ex and that shortly after they split she got with some other dude who got her pregnant (first baby for her, she never thought she'd be able to have kids due to some uterus disease). After he found out he was going to be a father he split. She said she didn't want to bother with trying to make something work with him, especially since he "freaked out". Obviously this guy would be able to provide for her and his baby while she's pregnant...making it easier on her and the baby.

When I met her back in the summer of grade 9-10, she was living with her mom and her mom was having a rough time raising three kids on her own. The whole situation didn't see right to me, so regardless I split before I got too involved (about three months).

So here we are roughly 20 years later and now she's pregnant and refuses to try any make anything work with either of her ex's I was going to ask if she's aware of the pattern she's set out for herself and how similar it is to the one her mom was in, but I'd feel terrible about guilt-tripping someone who's finally happy to be a mother.

I think that subconsciously she put herself into this situation after observing her mom in the same situation while growing up.