I'm gettin hitched

[xLibelle]

here is her engagement ring i bought. a fat $25!!!



I'm feeling like this is pulling me away from my beloved e30 projects. One of my automotive friends has already modded a new engine, yanked his old one and almost got it running. I'm dieing to get more into the garage... how do i address this w/o losing sexy time?

[RobertK]

Easy.. garage time = day / sexy time = night

Works for me.

BTW.. smart thinking on the $25 ring.. set the bar low early on to curb future disappointment. j/k

[xLibelle]

i was looking at real ring prices... pfft, who the fuck agrees to a $3k ring used for what? someone me the the fucking purpose of the engagement ring.


i dunno about day = car, night = boink. it makes sense but for some reason doesnt work so easily. i want to drink and get dirty wrenching and welding, etc... then i'm all beat and even still, by then, shes in bed, ready to start the next day.
people with real lives... what do YOU do?

[AdironRider]

First marriage tip, dont question expenses on stupid things like rings. You pay more, your going to get more ;). Its some sort of woman thing that men will never understand.

[Jon325i]

First marriage tip, dont question expenses on stupid things like rings. You pay more, your going to get more ;). Its some sort of woman thing that men will never understand.

There's a lot of truth to that. My brother was entertaining such an idea when he proposed to his wife. At that time my sister - whose been married for a decade now - parted with some worthy advice about wedding rings. She said (loosely quoting here), "skimp now and you'll really pay for it in the years that follow." I think he's glad he took that advice into consideration ;-)

Jon

[KenC]

Rip

[DarkWing6]

If you want the car money later on in life sacrifice for her now. I just got engaged in February and dropped $2K on a ring. If you do something like that she will really make it worth your while. I couldn't live with myself asking someone to wear a $25 piece of jewelry for the next 50+ years.

EDIT - Oh, and if you decide not to spend a lot on a ring don't try to fake like you did. Get her something small and simple.

[Maluco]

I have never understood that materialistic expensive ass rock on the ring thing. If the girl sincerely loves you how will she not appreciate what you get her as long as it's within what's realistically attainable? Obviously, if you are wealthy, you are going to get something mad expensive. It just seems that the larger/more expensive rings are all for show-off factor. The woman showing off what her man is all about and how great her marriage will be based on the size of the rock. I took my fiance to Paris and asked her to marry me on the tower. After the airfare, hotel and all other expenses related to the trip I could barely afford the engagement ring. The ring cost me less than 1K. I can say that the ring was nothing compared to the whole experience and I am sure she completely agrees. This whole thing is a matter of opinion, a matter of ones character and their judgment.

Congratulations and good luck!

[Ryan Stewart]

Odds are you are going to split up (not trying to be a dick, just 60% fail) so consider the ring a sunk cost.

The only good side could be you could use it to leverage when you want something expensive but likely, unless you are as big an asshole as I, she will shut that down.

[schmidty]

I spent $2k on my girls ring too. I could have spent less as I know there were other rings she would have liked for much less but I loved the ring I got her and I knew she would to.

It's somewhat of a sacrifice coughing up that much money for a little ring but that's kind of what loves about.... sacrifices, whether it be material/monetary or not. idk... I really didnt mind spending that much on a ring, I would have loved to drop 2k in parts on the e30 but this was much more worth it to me :D

[CleanAzzE30z]

Good luck man. And see ya around some day. I kept my independence as much as possible (as anyone that knows me and Julie will tell you) but it doesnt work for everyone.

Mariano

[Charlie]

3k for the ring, 125k for the house. Yeeha.

-Charlie

[SpecM]

-Hmm I proposed to my wife with a $120 gold band, cuz I couldn't afford more. Her grandmother gave me her ring as a gift a bit later, which I of course passed on to my (then) fiancee. I agree with Maluco, don't get cought up with how much, how big, how bling, blah blah blah. It doesn't matter. If she loves you, then she wouldn't belittle you or turn you down. Not trying to say it's that way for you dude, but that's just good general advise.

-OK, even more important that GETTING married is BEING married. Yes, engagement/weddings are happy and excieting, but don't lose sight of what is REALLY important.
-Let her win arguments, or at least let her THINK she's won. It's usually not worth argueing about in the first place.

-I have been married one month (as of yesterday) now. It's been great!

[KenC]

125k for the house.

lucky bastid ;)

125 won't buy you a closet here :(

[schmidty]

-Let her win arguments, or at least let her THINK she's won. It's usually not worth argueing about in the first place.

best advise evar!