I'm gettin hitched

[Maluco]

-I have been married one month (as of yesterday) now. It's been great!

Congratulations as well...

Indeed great advice on the humility factor... Not only are most arguements not worth it in the first place, they can quickly progress into alot worse.

[RobertK]

I never bought into the whole expensive ring and wedding crap.

I made it very clear that I am old fashioned and do not believe in getting into debt for anything other than buying a home. This included jewelry, wedding and honeymoon.

We spent a whole year saving to pay for our rings, wedding and honeymoon in cash. She got the simple gold ring she wanted and I got a $65 stainless steel band. The biggest mistake made by many people is that they forget is what the ring stands for.

If you start letting yourself or your wife get into the mindset that the monetary value of things determines love or self worth then you start to build you marriage on shaky ground.

How many stars get million dollar rings and how many get divorced within 2-3 years?

If you ever begin to catch your woman making comments about how not buying her certain expensive things means you don't love her nip it in the ass ASAP.

[SpecM]

Congratulations as well...

Indeed great advice on the humility factor... Not only are most arguements not worth it in the first place, they can quickly progress into alot worse.

-Thanks... and thanks cuz it's true!

[der affe]

Ooohhh GAME OVER!!! married......

[DarkWing6]

I spent $2k on my girls ring too. I could have spent less as I know there were other rings she would have liked for much less but I loved the ring I got her and I knew she would to.

It's somewhat of a sacrifice coughing up that much money for a little ring but that's kind of what loves about.... sacrifices, whether it be material/monetary or not. idk... I really didnt mind spending that much on a ring, I would have loved to drop 2k in parts on the e30 but this was much more worth it to me :D

My feelings exactly. People spend a lot more and $2K is on the low end for most rings these days. I felt it gave her a beautiful ring that she can wear for the rest of her life without it having to be some huge go in debt purchase (I paid cash). I know she loves me whether she has the ring or not, but women like that kind of thing and as men we should love our wives (or soon to be wives) and sacrifice for something that means something to them and not really us.

My ring was $250. I got it because it was titanium, desinged and made in Germany, and really comfortable. More expensive than some men's rings, but definately on the cheaper end of things.



EDIT - There is a lot of good responses in this thread. I agree about the ring (size, cost, etc) not being important. It is all about the marriage. Find out what she wants and discuss the ring with her. If she is happy with a band then go for it. If all you can afford is a band she should understand that, but if you are trying to save the $2K for the ring so you can spend it on car parts you need to rethink things.

[CleanAzzE30z]

lucky bastid ;)

125 won't buy you a closet here :(

ANd here it may get you a parking space in South L.A.


Mariano

[h0lmes]

My feelings exactly. People spend a lot more and $2K is on the low end for most rings these days. I felt it gave her a beautiful ring that she can wear for the rest of her life without it having to be some huge go in debt purchase (I paid cash). I know she loves me whether she has the ring or not, but women like that kind of thing and as men we should love our wives (or soon to be wives) and sacrifice for something that means something to them and not really us.

Derek you are such a sweetie.

[2002maniac]

i was looking at real ring prices... pfft, who the fuck agrees to a $3k ring used for what? someone me the the fucking purpose of the engagement ring.

Women. You got lucky...

[xLibelle]

you guys are funny. thanks for all the positive and constructive feedback!
The ring was a joke really, her idea as we walked though dillards. she wont wear it long, if other than to play.

i'm pretty confused though. she swears up and down that it would be a bad thing for me to waste my money on a band she wont wear. Ive bought other items for her and they sit in a box. in any case, i'll keep a keen eye out for those comments regarding shafting her on the ring. ...though we both agree, while in germany next month, we will be looking for a couple of nice weding bands bands!
What kind of metal do you suggest?

Ryan, i dont disagree about chances of lifetime relationships, but this one has been going on for around 8 years now. we thought it time to tie it.

[DarkWing6]

If you guys don't care about precious metals or all that get some titanium rings. They are cheap, light, and look nice. I have some friends that are married and got a pair of titanium bands on ebay for like $100. They look nice, but are simple.

[xLibelle]

i like the idea of titanium. i know with what hand work i do, i'll have the softer metals marred real quick.

[M42Technik]

I never bought into the whole expensive ring and wedding crap.

I made it very clear that I am old fashioned and do not believe in getting into debt for anything other than buying a home. This included jewelry, wedding and honeymoon.

We spent a whole year saving to pay for our rings, wedding and honeymoon in cash. She got the simple gold ring she wanted and I got a $65 stainless steel band. The biggest mistake made by many people is that they forget is what the ring stands for.

If you start letting yourself or your wife get into the mindset that the monetary value of things determines love or self worth then you start to build you marriage on shaky ground.

How many stars get million dollar rings and how many get divorced within 2-3 years?

If you ever begin to catch your woman making comments about how not buying her certain expensive things means you don't love her nip it in the ass ASAP.

Best advice right here. Stuff to live by my friend.

[xLibelle]

So here is an example of what i believe in. Screw the engagement ring, it means nothing to me. now THESE rings are what the deal is all about. Its actually kinda funny how many people have given us shit about that $25 ring (she wears it out.)

I found these bands in Germany. Platinum base with crushed gold rings. I forget the cut on the diamond. ...$2k each