Ugh...Divorce.

[Devil Inc]

That song was enjoyable, she sure went nuts, after the fact. I am confident in my decision, cause I feel that me making sure that I am happy is number one. As for bills no cc, but the utilities are in my name. We don't have much as far as savings, I could shut them off but not sure if that will ease anything, but peace of mind for me. I don't hate her or anything, just not for me. The e30 is in both names acquired it about a year and half ago. Thought about having it apraised and buy her half, but will wait until it needs to be. I know I most definately need to seek counsel from a lawyer.

I live in NE Indiana, not sure about 50/50 or not.

I have no military, thought about enlisting recently. Should be a thread on here somewheres. Does that make it better/worse?

It's kinda weird, but my mother and father recently split after almost 25 years. I don't think that has anything to do with it, but it did shake me a bit hard.

[steinkek]

It's kinda weird, but my mother and father recently split after almost 25 years. I don't think that has anything to do with it, but it did shake me a bit hard.

I know that when my mom and dad divorced after 15 years it was the best thing for them and my brother and I understood. But it will be something that will unfortunately affect me for the rest of my life.

I was in a serious relationship for almost 5 years and it ended with her cheating on me. Thank god we were waiting to get married till we both graduated from college.

After that experience and seeing my parents go through a divorce it really makes me think twice about marriage. I know I want to have kids some day but never want them to experience divorce.

I feel for you man and hope that you can work everything out

[StereoInstaller1]

This thread right here is why I am a "Serial Momogamist" to steal Tom Robbins' brilliant observation.

[george graves]

Devil Inc,

Keep your head about you, and do what you need to. But, I REALLY suggest talking to every smart person you know. Your super smart friend, your lawer friend, and you dad's old friend.

Sometimes we have our heads so far up our own asses that we can't see the sunshine.

Best of luck.

[Devil Inc]

This thread right here is why I am a "Serial Momogamist" to steal Tom Robbins' brilliant observation.

Thanks for bringing that phrase to my eyes. I believe that I should've never married, but I won't dismiss the fact that I shouldn't be with her. The word marriage feels too limiting/binding to me, I want the freedom and relationship. If that makes any sense at all?

[Turf1600]

Thanks for bringing that phrase to my eyes. I believe that I should've never married, but I won't dismiss the fact that I shouldn't be with her. The word marriage feels too limiting/binding to me, I want the freedom and relationship. If that makes any sense at all?

It makes sense but it's a cliche cop out. Did you try any marriage counceling? Did you ever talk to her about this? Based on all of your answers in this post it seems like you haven't constructively participated in your relationship. There's no way she should be that surprised and blindsided by a decision like divorce.

Granted, I don't know all of the details. However, it seems (based off of what I've read) that you're mostly at fault here.

[Ral]

Best advice I ever heard on the subject (and no, I'm not married) was "If you marry the right one and treat her like the wrong one, you married the wrong one." And no, I'm not married before you ask. To be honest, it almost sounds like a quarter-life crisis. You're complaining about missing the funnest years of your life, but I can guarantee there have been some really, really great parts that you wouldn't have traded for the world. Do what you need to, but it seems like, from what you posted, you haven't really thought this through. I agree with George, but would add marriage counselor to that list of smart people to talk to.

[Charlie]

From Mr Ben Fold himself off of his new album

intro to Bitch went nuts- Song is great by the way

Imagine in old asian man voice -

The answer you seek my son, pose more question
There is no one simple answer
Ask many women why relationship has failed
Each woman offer unique reason for demise
One woman might say, “Man could not commit”
Or, “Man is douche and now is free to make love to oneself constantly(?)”
Another woman might say, “Man had changed”
Or even offers that woman had changed
“Man was initially or had become complacent”
“Man no longer satisfactory guy”
But my son, ask many men same question all over the world
“Why has relationship failed?”
Each man each time will give same simple answer...

THE BITCH WENT NUTS!

I'll see your Ben Folds, and raise you Ben Folds Five:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URz1qJ3aC4M

-Charlie

[Ral]

Thanks for bringing that phrase to my eyes. I believe that I should've never married, but I won't dismiss the fact that I shouldn't be with her. The word marriage feels too limiting/binding to me, I want the freedom and relationship. If that makes any sense at all?

So, you want to stay with her but go out on the weekends and meet other girls?

think about this.. if her doing it would make you mad, maybe you shouldn't do it until you guys talk to each other about it.

[Ray Smoodiver]

bitches aint shit but hoes and tricks

[Turf1600]

think about this.. if her doing it would make you mad, maybe you shouldn't do it until you guys talk to each other about it.

x2. Sounds like you need to work on your relationship skills.

[delatlanta1281]

Why aren't you happy with yourself, and what does that have to do with your wife? My advice would be to look back at all the reasons you guys got married. You can't really play the "I missed out" card b/c you had a different experience with a totally committed woman. If anything you had it easy. I would try to seek counseling, talk to her about your hangups, it sounds to me like you just don't want to be married and want to be single. I can totally understand why no one believes that you aren't scoping out another girl due to your explination of why you can't be married to this girl anymore.
If you are in a bad place or transition in your life, who better to help and supprt you than the woman you have been with for 7+ years??? While she may not totally understand your position or how to help, I bet she will damn sure try her hardest to help. If I am wrong about her support, then maybe you should split. Just remember, you married her for a reason/ reasons. And she helped you buy the e30. Don't forget that.
GL

[Turf1600]

Concensus - sounds like personal problems. Talk with your wife and sort it out. Seek marriage counseling.

[Aptyp]

Remember too that "Ex-sex" is the best fuck you will ever have. Believe it!

From the entire thread, this is the only worthy statement.

[Aptyp]

Why not separate? and not divorce?

You can always divorce later. If you love her, and always will, then you're doing something wrong.