Ugh...Divorce.

[Devil Inc]

No worries about going Scott Peterson on her. I'm sure getting laid would ease some things, but probably will cause new things.

Spoke with her on the phone a few hours ago, and we were civil to each other, but I'm not for going back yet, if at all. I haven't left my crash pad to do anything. I am enjoying the silence, though it would get to most people.

[h0lmes]

You're weak is all I have to say. Divorce is a last option IMO. It should be reserved only for infidelity and a few other rare circumstances.

[Turf1600]

No worries about going Scott Peterson on her. I'm sure getting laid would ease some things, but probably will cause new things.

Spoke with her on the phone a few hours ago, and we were civil to each other, but I'm not for going back yet, if at all. I haven't left my crash pad to do anything. I am enjoying the silence, though it would get to most people.

Wtf? How would silence get to most people?

[RobertK]

Yeah, I went through this when I was not yet married to Tara but had been together for 4 years or so.

Basically, I was 23 and decided I wanted to "sew my wild oats" (which included fucking some girl I had been flirting with at work) but I couldn't do that in a serious relationship.

So one night I just told Tara I wasn't happy, blah blah blah, "it's me not you", blah blah blah, we split up for a year, I ran around with my single friends, woke up hungover one morning after fucking some beautiful random girl and realized how very empty my life was..

I soon went running back to Tara, came clean about the previous 11-12 months, she took me back, and we got married soon after. Been awesome ever since (except for the cancer thing which is probably karma for how I treated Tara 3 years ago.)

I guess my point is, the grass may look greener on the other side but it won't fill that spot in your heart that makes you feel ok if you die tomorrow.

[SpecM]

I guess my point is, the grass may look greener on the other side but it won't fill that spot in your heart that makes you feel ok if you die tomorrow.

qft

[E30Idea]

You're weak is all I have to say. Divorce is a last option IMO. It should be reserved only for infidelity and a few other rare circumstances.

Amen

[Money$hit]

Step 1: Get divorced
Step 2: Travel one state to your east
Step 3: Let me introduce you to the copious amounts of ass at my college. We have a 68%-20% ratio of Girls to Guys.

[Aptyp]

In most states you have to be separated for a year to be granted a divorce.

Legally separate from her, if she won't give peace, court will. If she goes psycho, divorce will be much easier for you. Plus separation will let both of you handle all your demons.


I also don't mean to sound like a dick, but what the fuck were thinking getting married that early? I am 24 and I am no where near tying a not, even though gf and I have been together for 5 years on and off.

[devonjordan]

Step 1: Get divorced
Step 2: Travel one state to your east
Step 3: Let me introduce you to the copious amounts of ass at my college. We have a 68%-20% ratio of Girls to Guys.

Thats only 88% are the other 12% undecided? HAHA

[E30Idea]

Thats only 88% are the other 12% undecided? HAHA

LMFAO!

[Money$hit]

Thats only 88% are the other 12% undecided? HAHA

Good eye.

That 12% was intentionally left in there, and accounts for the other fags and pre op trannies residing on my campus.

[Aptyp]

other 12% are in that "I know you're gay" thread

[twistednut]

If there is any hope left I think the best advice I can give you at this point is to get a pencil and paper and start writing your thoughts down. Once they are on the paper it stops the tape player in your head from playing the same tapes over and over. What it will also do is generate some talking points with your wife of things that need to be discussed.
Actions are greater then words. Her promising to change or whatever doesn't mean shit unless she actually follows through with what she has promised.
Also put on the paper wants, needs and expectations. It will help define what you are looking for in a future partner if you can't work things out with your wife.

Now the other side of the coin.
I wish I would have listened to a lawyer who once told me,"If you don't see it working out then get out now." Nine years later, I finally got out and paid a huge price both emotionally and financially.
If it is not going to work, FILE FIRST! You will have a better chance of getting what you want.
Resolve yourself to the fact that she will get half of everything that you have acquired together while you have been together. Not just the stuff you acquired during the term of the marriage. Anything you get beyond that is gravy.
If you want to keep the e30 then you are probably going to have to give up a house full of furniture.
If you can get everything resolved without getting a lawyers involved then do it but, make sure you have a lawyer look at everything before you sign anything.
If lawyers need to get involved then GET YOURSELF A GREAT LAWYER! It is going to cost you some cash but in the end you will end up saving. Find out which lawyers in your county investigate the malpractice suits against lawyers. You want one of those guys.
After you have found your lawyer and have laid out your plan of attack, TRY and get everything resolved you can so you don't have to spend so much time with him.
Don't try and hide anything. If it ends up going before a judge and he sees you trying to pull some bullshit you are toast.

When you get to the point where you know it is over and you have filed go get LAID! Find a slutty one and fuck the shit out of her and don't look back.

[kowalski]

Yeah, I went through this when I was not yet married to Tara but had been together for 4 years or so.

Basically, I was 23 and decided I wanted to "sew my wild oats" (which included fucking some girl I had been flirting with at work) but I couldn't do that in a serious relationship.

So one night I just told Tara I wasn't happy, blah blah blah, "it's me not you", blah blah blah, we split up for a year, I ran around with my single friends, woke up hungover one morning after fucking some beautiful random girl and realized how very empty my life was..

I soon went running back to Tara, came clean about the previous 11-12 months, she took me back, and we got married soon after. Been awesome ever since (except for the cancer thing which is probably karma for how I treated Tara 3 years ago.)

I guess my point is, the grass may look greener on the other side but it won't fill that spot in your heart that makes you feel ok if you die tomorrow.

This story gives me hope in a strange way about my current situation!

[Lodsin]

Yeah, I went through this when I was not yet married to Tara but had been together for 4 years or so.

Basically, I was 23 and decided I wanted to "sew my wild oats" (which included fucking some girl I had been flirting with at work) but I couldn't do that in a serious relationship.

So one night I just told Tara I wasn't happy, blah blah blah, "it's me not you", blah blah blah, we split up for a year, I ran around with my single friends, woke up hungover one morning after fucking some beautiful random girl and realized how very empty my life was..

I soon went running back to Tara, came clean about the previous 11-12 months, she took me back, and we got married soon after. Been awesome ever since (except for the cancer thing which is probably karma for how I treated Tara 3 years ago.)

I guess my point is, the grass may look greener on the other side but it won't fill that spot in your heart that makes you feel ok if you die tomorrow.

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I also don't mean to sound like a dick, but what the fuck were thinking getting married that early? I am 24 and I am no where near tying a not, even though gf and I have been together for 5 years on and off.

I'm almost 20 and I cannot imagine growing older without my girlfriend. We talk things out when there is a problem(though we rarely have to), were not that close personality/hobby wise so we have much to explore, and we compliment each other very well.

There are simply some people that get married early and know its right and there are people that think they need to search around more.

To the OP: When I think of someone that just wants to go do the things they missed I think of hipsters. If you think you missed out think about what all the other people missed out on! While they were getting trashed and wishing that they could take home the nice girl that they could only be friends with you were at home or out having the time of your life! If this is not the case then see my first quotes and have a talk with her about what bothers you, face to face.