need gf advice

[Ral]

dude, run. RUN. It has nothing to do with the pot, maybe a little with the coke, but all that's beside the point. She lied to you, so let her go. I know she seems like the greatest person in the world, but I've been there and watched a girlfriend completely fuck up her life. It's not fun, and watching her go down nearly killed me, literally. Don't follow her down while trying to save her.

[h0lmes]

3. For those who said you cannot change people, in the matter of drugs, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY WRONG, IT IS PEOPLE LIKE YOU WHO ALLOW ADDICTS TO SLIP DEEPER AND DEEPER INTO THEIR ADDICTIONS AND RUIN THEIR LIVES!!! SITTING IDLY BY AND ALLOWING IT TO HAPPEN IS WORSE THAN INSERTING THE NEEDLE YOU INGRATES!!!! You're situation sounds more like a phase but I can't honestly say that it may not be the case. Also no single person, such as yourself, can be the catalyst for the power necessary to change her ways. You need friends, family, and community behind her in order to change, just asking for a promise will get you nowhere. Basically think of the tv show Intervention. I highly doubt her addiction is close to that dramatic of a situation but you get the idea.

As an addict you should know that addicts have to want to change before anything is going to happen. The first step is admitting to oneself that there is a problem and then actively taking steps to fix the problem. Support from friends and family is a big part of recovery but the key is that you have to want to change yourself first.

This girl is not an addict and she does not have a problem. She is young and experimenting and having fun like most people do at that age. She is not going to want to change because it's a new thing to her and she is definitely not going to do it for her insecure boyfriend of 2 months.

Give it a while and she will realize, like most people do, that drugs are not the path to a good life. You can either go along for the ride and have a little fun with her, or you can get out of the relationship now. If you stick around and continue to try and force this girl to do what you want, it is going to bring you tons of heartache and the relationship will end long after it should have.

[416stroker]

As an addict you should know that addicts have to want to change before anything is going to happen. The first step is admitting to oneself that there is a problem and then actively taking steps to fix the problem. Support from friends and family is a big part of recovery but the key is that you have to want to change yourself first.

This girl is not an addict and she does not have a problem. She is young and experimenting and having fun like most people do at that age. She is not going to want to change because it's a new thing to her and she is definitely not going to do it for her insecure boyfriend of 2 months.

Give it a while and she will realize, like most people do, that drugs are not the path to a good life. You can either go along for the ride and have a little fun with her, or you can get out of the relationship now. If you stick around and continue to try and force this girl to do what you want, it is going to bring you tons of heartache and the relationship will end long after it should have.

Thats well put

[Axxe]

I agree with you.

Yup, stop being a softer mans and fuck her brains out until you are bored of her.

[Wiglaf]

best way to dump her: by posting nudes of her all over this website ;)

[xwill112x]

best way to dump her: by posting nudes of her all over this website ;)

+1:hitler:

[thearkitekt]

if you really want to dump her ask her if you can do something kinky. say you want to give her a cleveland steemer, then right after you brick on her chest get up and tell her its over. whats she going to do? chase you down covered in shit? lol

[Wudney]

^ That's fucked.

Serious dude, fuck this chick as much as you can as often as you can anywhere you can. Like said before get another girl on the side and when you're bored of this one just don't talk to her.

How hard can it be you said she's a town away?

[Dillinger]

Pathetic.

[scabzzzz]

Tell her I love blow and weed, and I'm single.

[TexasTerp]

As an addict you should know that addicts have to want to change before anything is going to happen. The first step is admitting to oneself that there is a problem and then actively taking steps to fix the problem. Support from friends and family is a big part of recovery but the key is that you have to want to change yourself first.

This girl is not an addict and she does not have a problem. She is young and experimenting and having fun like most people do at that age. She is not going to want to change because it's a new thing to her and she is definitely not going to do it for her insecure boyfriend of 2 months.

Give it a while and she will realize, like most people do, that drugs are not the path to a good life. You can either go along for the ride and have a little fun with her, or you can get out of the relationship now. If you stick around and continue to try and force this girl to do what you want, it is going to bring you tons of heartache and the relationship will end long after it should have.

Very well put, I wrote that really late last night and I completely overlooked the fact I didn't state that this was a phase. Even though I have a small reference to it, I didn't make the point I wanted to. I got overly involved with writing about the recovery process I completely forgot about the actual situation.

I will say this though, if it wasn't for my friends who worked hard to show me that I had a problem, I would not have come to that realization on my own as quickly. The first big step is admitting to yourself that you have a problem, but in order to do that you need other people to show you that you have a problem, only then can you actually step back. The only time ever in which an addict will come to the realization that they have a problem is when they hit rock bottom, I've seen it a couple times personally. The objective of "the rest of society" is to stop the addiction before if ever becomes that bad.

I edited my original post to clarify.

[Peterkaczynski]

Very well put, I wrote that really late last night and I completely overlooked the fact I didn't state that this was a phase. Even though I have a small reference to it, I didn't make the point I wanted to. I got overly involved with writing about the recovery process I completely forgot about the actual situation.

I will say this though, if it wasn't for my friends who worked hard to show me that I had a problem, I would not have come to that realization on my own as quickly. The first big step is admitting to yourself that you have a problem, but in order to do that you need other people to show you that you have a problem, only then can you actually step back. The only time ever in which an addict will come to the realization that they have a problem is when they hit rock bottom, I've seen it a couple times personally. The objective of "the rest of society" is to stop the addiction before if ever becomes that bad.

I edited my original post to clarify.

she did that and we're working on it, im spending more time with her and we're working on our relationship. weve been dating for 2 months but our foundation has been building for 3-4 months before we started being together. She realized that she has a problem and we will get over this phase and form here it seems like its going to be alright, hopefully this wont repeat

[thereisnoyun]

dude... over reacting man... I'm pretty liberal here. I'm not for drugs at all. But seriously, shes ... 19. you say shes 25+ and thinking about marriage and she still screwing around with drugs... thats no good, but at 19? Just leave it be, its just be a phase.

Dont ever make a girl promise something, just because you think yo uare good to her. Women will promise everything and anything. You are just enabling them to lie and be super secretive about it.

but seriously with girls that does heavy drugs... I follow the three rules of college dating. I call it the Triple Fs. Find Fuck and Forget.

[StereoInstaller1]

Ygpm.

[nineohfour]

dude shes 19. i can personally tell you id smoke her out in a second if i knew she smoked. in my opinion you are doing the world a disservice by trying to take away one our hot 19 year old party chicks. you should be ashamed of yourself.