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Married Guys: How do you handle your bank accounts?
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Originally posted by ck_taft325is View PostSo, your dad was an jerk by your own admission yet you'll heed his marital advice? That's like Hugh Hefner telling me how to be a good husband.-Mike
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Damn, a lot of variety here. Most of it is pretty insightful. I can see the arguments for shared and separate accounts.
Personally, I think a guy earning everything and giving an "allowance" is fucking retarded. Similarly, I think discussing every purchase or getting the "ok" from your spouse is also stupid. Are you not capable of deciding if your desires are reasonable? Fuck that. I'm smart with my money. I save a lot. I also share a lot with my girlfriend. If you need to disucss every purchase for the sake of "being fair, in a partnership, a team, etc," then you're giving up a lot in efficiency. In my experience, the successful act in a quick, decisive manner.
We are both fresh college grads in a shit economy/job market but have landed jobs ~45k/year. We both have saving and investing as a priority.
Keep the opinions coming.S50'd
Originally posted by TDE30What is this faggy shit I have happened upon?Originally posted by slammin.e28I can always live in a M3. Can't M3 a house.
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I think maybe you are taking what some are saying the wrong way. I ask about purchases like a car. I didn't ask when I ordered my M52, GCs and BBK. Just like my wife doesn't ask if she can stop at a store on the way home from work. She just does it. As you said we are smart with money. I don't buy GCs when we can't pay the real bills.
People aren't asking, at least I don't think, if they can go hit the McDonald's Drive Thru. Less things are really tight.
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I'm recently married and we're trying to figure out how to do bank accoutns right now.
I have always used my checking account as a repository for spending and never balanced a checkbook in my life because I keep track of my spending habits online, and use a credit card for all expenses and then pay it off at the end of the month.
My wife however prefers to use cash and balances a checkbook to keep track of her spending.
We're going back and forth between having a 'family' account and an account just to throw some 'allowance' in for her to spend with without question since I am the breadwinner.
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Originally posted by Kruzen View PostI'm recently married and we're trying to figure out how to do bank accoutns right now.
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Originally posted by Lof8 View PostSimilarly, I think discussing every purchase or getting the "ok" from your spouse is also stupid. Are you not capable of deciding if your desires are reasonable? Fuck that.
Also there is an age related issue. If she is 19 and in college and you are say 23 fresh out of college making 50k, surely shes not going to be paying any bills.
I think joint bank account is good when everyone is married. Its a check and balance system of protecting each otehr from each otehrs vices. AKA women like to spend on shopping, and men likes thier toys.
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Originally posted by dinanm3atl View PostI ask about purchases like a car.
If you're not children then you both know what is and what isn't reasonable. At that point, it's a matter of telling your partner that you want this and discuss how you're going to go about it - do you have enough cash now and just going to go and pull the trigger? Do you need to save up for a few months and maybe need her to pitch in?
If you're seriously worried about getting shit for pursuing your interests, then it's not going to last. You can try to drag it out longer but this is not something you can compromise on and something you should know before getting serious - not whether or not she fucks good (well that too, but that you should know already) but whether or not you like, or at least can tolerate, the other person's dumbass interests and malfunctions. It's the reason why I roll my eyes at anyone who gets married without having lived together for at least a month. They get divorced (or keep living together as feudal roommates) saying how wonderful it was while they were dating then the other person turned into an asshole. Anyone can be wonderful for a few hours a day or a week. What makes a lasting relationship is how well you tolerate each others dark side (as Chris Rock put it, "the crust of a motherfucker").
If you find someone like that then you'll realize that shit like whether or not your accounts are joint makes no fucking difference, beyond practicality.
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Been with my girlfriend 3.5 years, lived together for three. We will be getting hitched sooner rather than later and will keep our setup the same as it now.
Mortgage/bills/groceries/house maintanence/entertainment, we split right down the middle 50/50. After that it's whatever we want to spend our money on. She doesn't fund my car/audio habits and I don't pay for her shopping trips.
We both bring home about the same salary, actually she brings home even a bit more than I do, so I think it's a pretty fair setup.
She is also self-employed, so having her own accounts is helpful for tax time as well.
And with this setup there is never arguments over money either. So it works for us.Need parts now? Need them cheap? steve@blunttech.com
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Originally posted by Ray Smoodiver View PostWait, WHAT.
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Originally posted by briansjacobs View PostI remeber when I came home with a (then) new Z3 2.8 coupe. Man she was pissed.
She got over it.
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