My wife screwed me again

[imsotyerred]

I think it is important to remember that you do love this woman, right? maybe she's just on a bad path at the moment and needs your help to be getting better. While i stand by this initial kicking of her ass to the curb, You shouldn't completely give up on her...Nothing worse than having someone close to you throw in the towel when you need help the most.

do what you need to to protect your own ass and then consider therapy. She has a drug addiction, it's not the end of the world yet.

[Roysneon]

Nothing worse than having someone close to you throw in the towel when you need help the most.

do what you need to to protect your own ass and then consider therapy. She has a drug addiction, it's not the end of the world yet.

My thoughts also. If you truly do love her, tell her to get help from therapy, rehab, etc. if she refuses then it's kinda a lost cause imo.

Yes I'm a 20-something head in ass poster, too.

[blunttech]

I think it is important to remember that you do love this woman, right? maybe she's just on a bad path at the moment and needs your help to be getting better. While i stand by this initial kicking of her ass to the curb, You shouldn't completely give up on her...Nothing worse than having someone close to you throw in the towel when you need help the most.

do what you need to to protect your own ass and then consider therapy. She has a drug addiction, it's not the end of the world yet.

truth right here. Im actually glad to hear its an addiction. she can pull out of this. I come from a long line of addicts and have addiction widespread within my family. This june i will be straight for 30 years...If my family would have given up on me Id be dead right now .. no question. Same for my son. Protect yourself because it may be a long road but if you truly love her stick with her.. maybe separate and lay down some laws but be there for her. Shes obviously a good person once you discount the addiction or you wouldnt be with her. I dont think its time to cut the cord at all. but tough love is where its at dude. Good luck to you. Its a long hard road and ive been on it for 6 years with my oldest son but hes finally healthy and on the right path. I wish you the best

[parkerbink]

truth right here. Im actually glad to hear its an addiction. she can pull out of this. I come from a long line of addicts and have addiction widespread within my family. This june i will be straight for 30 years...If my family would have given up on me Id be dead right now .. no question. Same for my son. Protect yourself because it may be a long road but if you truly love her stick with her.. maybe separate and lay down some laws but be there for her. Shes obviously a good person once you discount the addiction or you wouldnt be with her. I dont think its time to cut the cord at all. but tough love is where its at dude. Good luck to you. Its a long hard road and ive been on it for 6 years with my oldest son but hes finally healthy and on the right path. I wish you the best

X2.

1) Sorry, I know this sucks.

2) 7/12/11 I'll have 17 years clean. My parents said we love you and won't watch you kill yourself anymore. Come back when you are clean.

If you love her even if you can't be with her try calmly saying that to her.

Good luck.

[ortholithiation]

You seem pretty young + no kids. Get out.

You did well, but opioid addiction is no joke and about as bad as it gets. Blowing 3 grand for pills is pretty bad.

She has family, let them deal with it. No one wants to be married to a drug addict (or an ex drug addict) she will probably leave you anyway if she gets in any deeper, and you can bet that she will try to get as much cash as possible.

Protect your shit, get out, and start again. Would you even date this girl now if you met her. If you were not married you would just up and leave.

Get ready for massive weight gain after rehab if/when it happens + the whole walking on egg shells while always be paranoid about relapsing while she gets her life back together.

[gp.plus]

I'm 35, married almost 8 yrs now, was separated for 1 1/2. My wife had the same issues with oxy although it was prescribed to her for a very tough illness that she lives with. Its a tough addiction to beat but, we managed to get through it, she has since worked very hard to manage her pain with much more mild drugs and non-drug techniques. If you love her .. help her, BUT, first separate yourself financially, and clear your head. It was no easy task but in the end our marriage is much stronger for it. Good luck.

[der affe]

With all this intervention talk, you need to concider that fact that he is out of town for most of the week. Now you are looking at a job change too in order to facilitate helping her with recovery and whatever marriage repair.

You need some time away from her before you even think about jumping into this. I'll bet your love for her fades without her in the immediate picture and some hind sight.

If you bail out, it is not like she does not have a net in HER family, she is their daughter.

You need to step back and assess the entire situation before you jump to a decision. AFTER you protect yourself and your assets.

[carfantiti]

shes lying!!!!!!!!!!!100%
shes up to know good !
she does ATM so you cant see were shes spending the money which is probably at a bar or club or hotel!
but time will tell and you will find out eventually~!

[accident]

shes lying!!!!!!!!!!!100%
shes up to know good !
she does ATM so you cant see were shes spending the money which is probably at a bar or club or hotel!
but time will tell and you will find out eventually~!

We've already established this. Now go away dinanm3.

[mrsleeve]

With all this intervention talk, you need to concider that fact that he is out of town for most of the week. Now you are looking at a job change too in order to facilitate helping her with recovery and whatever marriage repair.

You need some time away from her before you even think about jumping into this. I'll bet your love for her fades without her in the immediate picture and some hind sight.

If you bail out, it is not like she does not have a net in HER family, she is their daughter.

You need to step back and assess the entire situation before you jump to a decision. AFTER you protect yourself and your assets.

I am quoting this again as its very important

[kinvodA]

So, jus so we're clear, this thread about being screwed by his wife is not about a married mans quest to get his annual sex? Thought it might be a support group for men not Gettin laid by their wife

[Massimo]

I am quoting this again as its very important

I will Quote this Quote, I would have to agree if you did not travel for work I would say try and work things out. But with your current work situation it would be very difficult and would require alot of determination and time. I would not blame you for leaving her ass, not everyone can help someone with a problem.

Good Luck

[gp.plus]

You need to step back and assess the entire situation before you jump to a decision. AFTER you protect yourself and your assets.

This is the best suggestion in this thread.

[der affe]

I will reiterate my statements, after you protect yourself, step back and really assess what is best for YOU. From your statements you have been the one putting the most into keeping things together. Concider the fact that SHE may not want to keep it going (addiction or not). You could put tons of effort into this only to still have her jump ship.

Is she using the drugs to cope with her unhappiness with the marrage situation or the fact that you are gone all of the time for work.


Concider these things along with the addiction in your decision to stay or go.

[ck_taft325is]

I will reiterate my statements, after you protect yourself, step back and really assess what is best for YOU. From your statements you have been the one putting the most into keeping things together. Concider the fact that SHE may not want to keep it going (addiction or not). You could put tons of effort into this only to still have her jump ship.

Is she using the drugs to cope with her unhappiness with the marrage situation or the fact that you are gone all of the time for work.


Concider these things along with the addiction in your decision to stay or go.

All hail Dr. Der Affe