Stay at home mom/homemaker exstinct?

[Vtec?lol]

I want a stay at home wife simply for the sake of our children. Kids are becoming further apart from their homes and more subject to society. I wan't a quality family that sits and eats at a table at least until my kids are in high school. It's not at all about the money for me.
Once I have kids, dreams of getting rich become a lower priority.

[blunttech]

In the beginning when we were first married my wife would yearn for me. But over the years the "Y" has become silent

[Kershaw]

^ lol.

my mom has always worked. she got her degree in architecture and has worked ever since college. my dad left when i was 7 (back to greece, rarely pay child support too) but my mom has always held it together. used to make really good money, but lately people have not been doing too many home renovations. still makes $90/120 hour though.

i fully expect my future wife (if that ever happens, heh) to have a full time job.

[mr.vang]

i'm a stay home dad :)

[samiam3356]

holy cow, are you a twin also?

lol nope the man has nothing to do with it.

[cale]

I was raised from birth in a home where both parents worked 40 hours a week. No we didn't always have dinner together sitting around a table and I'm sure it was stressful for them from time to time....but shit got done. I never had any serious issues growing up, I'm not a menace to society. People wonder who will do chores around the house, the fuckin kids that's who! I did laundry, did dishes, cleaned the house, mowed the lawn...anything that was a pretty basic task I was fully capable of doing myself as was my sister. We learned to cook too, granted they weren't the most glorious meals ever but I'm a decent cook now and I have to attribute some of that to my independence from such a young age. You don't need a wife spending 8 hours a day tending to a house and kids who are gone for 6.5 hours anyway's just to live a normal life. Infants and toddlers...yea, it'd be tough, but as soon as they're old enough to go to preschool there's little reason as to why both parents couldn't have full time jobs.

[previasc96]

thank you all so much for your replies!

[DÌEGØ]

I agree with CALE.

my mom was a stay-at-home up until the divorce, because she has minimal education she struggles and basically lives paycheck to paycheck. Ideally I'd want my wife to have an education and if our financial status allows it perhaps be a stay-at-home mom for the first few years. as soon as kids are old enough to take care of themselves she can get back to work and they do chores around the house no

[Heysüß]

as my international economics teacher put it:

As the richer have been getting richer the middle class has struggled to maintain the status quo by doing what?: going into debt more, working longer hours, AND sending the women to work too. Gone are the 1950's.

That class depressed me the most out of all my econ classes and I'm a damn accounting major, my career path isn't exactly going to be the most exciting.

[z31maniac]

Wow, word for word that's my life too.

Yeah. We bought an inexpensive house and spend entirely too much on fun stuff.

[previasc96]

I agree with CALE.

my mom was a stay-at-home up until the divorce, because she has minimal education she struggles and basically lives paycheck to paycheck. Ideally I'd want my wife to have an education and if our financial status allows it perhaps be a stay-at-home mom for the first few years. as soon as kids are old enough to take care of themselves she can get back to work and they do chores around the house no

that's how my wife and I see it. She doesn't wanna miss out on the pre-gradeschool days of our son (and hopefully a daughter soon).

[njansenv]

I want a stay at home wife simply for the sake of our children. Kids are becoming further apart from their homes and more subject to society. I wan't a quality family that sits and eats at a table at least until my kids are in high school. It's not at all about the money for me.
Once I have kids, dreams of getting rich become a lower priority.

QFT. We're a one income home. My wife worked until the first little one came along, but our goal is to do what it takes to allow one of us to stay home and raise the children. This means trimming the budget, not going into debt, having a modest sized home (and mortgage) and (for now) saying no to that aircooled porsche I want.

We wouldn't trade it for anything, and really feel that it is better (over all) for family life. I'm thankful I have a decent enough job that we're able to do it.

[Mr. Tasty]

bump

[mrsleeve]

I never checked back with this thread.


I find is somewhat disappointing with the "that bitch had better have a job" attitude on display by some in here. If they want to work thats one thing, especially after the kids are raised and gone or you dont have any yet. If you can raise them comfortably with one income why is that such a bad thing ????


I guess I am just too old fashioned

[justin_l_]

I work full time and my wife works part time. Our boy (21 months) goes to day care part time. My wife was a stay at home for a while but we decided that getting our boy around other kids would help him socially so that is where he is. In a couple months when our daughter is born my wife will become a stay at home mom again because we can't afford day care for both of them, it's $800 a month each.

We currently live downtown, but we want to move out to the sticks a little. Be nice to get some land (20+- acres) and teach the kids some real responsibilities.