R3v halp

[Ryan...]

that's real too. it took until i was almost 40 to find her. i've been through my share of shitty relationships that ended far later than they should have. hence my "if".

My last relationship probably could have been ended 5 months in, instead I let it go nearly 5 years... Can't be too upset because I'm doing far better now than I probably should have, but those are years I'll never get back.

also if that cat ever makes black kittens i want one

Ol Petey probably only has another year left in him unfortunately :(

that's what cops do tho

something something better to be judged by 12 than carried by six something something

[FredK]

but i see you shot first, so you're fair game

that's what cops do tho

[decay]

also if that cat ever makes black kittens i want one

[decay]

I'm glad you found that person, I fear most people end up jumping in too soon, or perhaps worse, settling and wasting both of their lives (and potentially children's lives).

that's real too. it took until i was almost 40 to find her. i've been through my share of shitty relationships that ended far later than they should have. hence my "if".

[Ryan...]

that happens to cops. find a different line of work.

(i was going to apologize for fucking with you here, but i see you shot first, so you're fair game)

if you found the right one, put a ring on it. that should be prioritized above all else.

a bit of real talk to maybe personalize us to each other: i found the right one. i caught pneumonia and a viral stomach infection at the same time in january and almost didn't make it. as in, i passed out and had a seizure at home, got taken to the ER and sent promptly to the ICU, my mom drove down from north while i was in a coma and the nurses were asking her if i had a will.

she was in her last semester of her master's degree program in architecture and she bailed out of school and didn't leave my side or the hospital bed for the 8 days i was in kaiser. she got put on academic probation but graduated anyway and got her first gig 2 months ago.

that's how you know you found the right one. if she is that kind of partner to you, put a ring on it, now. the car can wait and you are *issued weapons and rounds at work*. priorities.

I got at least another 15-20 years in me doing this, likely won't make it the full 30.

I'm all for a bit of ribbing, I have no problem putting our political differences aside once outside Politics and Religion lol

This is most definitely *the one*, in all honesty this thread is half joke/half advice, I wouldn't let this degenerate group of children dictate my life in such a way :-)

I'm glad you found that person, I fear most people end up jumping in too soon, or perhaps worse, settling and wasting both of their lives (and potentially children's lives).

[decay]

I keep getting stupider and fatter with each passing month.

that happens to cops. find a different line of work.

(i was going to apologize for fucking with you here, but i see you shot first, so you're fair game)

if you found the right one, put a ring on it. that should be prioritized above all else.

a bit of real talk to maybe personalize us to each other: i found the right one. i caught pneumonia and a viral stomach infection at the same time in january and almost didn't make it. as in, i passed out and had a seizure at home, got taken to the ER and sent promptly to the ICU, my mom drove down from north while i was in a coma and the nurses were asking her if i had a will.

she was in her last semester of her master's degree program in architecture and she bailed out of school and didn't leave my side or the hospital bed for the 8 days i was in kaiser. she got put on academic probation but graduated anyway and got her first gig 2 months ago.

that's how you know you found the right one. if she is that kind of partner to you, put a ring on it, now. the car can wait and you are *issued weapons and rounds at work*. priorities.

[Ryan...]

HA! Nothing wrong with that! There was a long time my ex-wife made more than me.

I don't understand guys who are emasculated by that.

Shit, half my coworkers at the PD have wives that make more than them :D

I have absolutely no issue with her making more. I don't expect, and wouldn't want her to treat me any differently than she does now with me paying for everything. Splitting half and half, or her just outright buying the stuff she wants is perfectly fine.

It's almost annoying hearing people telling me to "lock it up, she's going to be rich" as if I expect to reap massive rewards from that. We'll probably have a nicer house than we would if she were making $30-40k a year as a teacher like she wanted to be when we met, but other than that I don't see money changing her at all. Then again, if she wants to buy me my dream Ferrari 360 I wouldn't tell her to take it back :D

Be careful going with a corundum, Ruby/sapphires.. also very hard durable stones... but buying from the mall / chain like places, most all those stones are going to lab created stones....

All I know if that she wants a halo ring, silver/white gold/platinum band with regular clear diamonds. No ruby's or other colored stones.

I vote ring. I bought my wife's ring for $1000 11 years ago. No it wasn't impressive, but I paid cash. Here honey a $5000 dollar ring and some debt you can help me pay off when married isn't much of a gift was my thinking. Not saying your financing the ring but many do. I also bought from a jeweler that will take trade in at your retail price towards a new ring. So if she wants to upgrade down the road you can. Jewelry is a terrible waste of money in my mind and a more expensive ring only makes your wife a better target for thieves in my opinion.

Either way, if she is the one, don't waste time sealing the deal! Congrats

If I stay within my budget I'll be paying cash, unless they want to offer 0% financing because then why not? Wouldn't hurt to add a card and make monthly payments, build credit up and whatnot.

BTW you know you have to invite all of r3v to your wedding, even decay. It was buried in the agreement you all blindly signed

I've already got some peeps from BFC demanding invites, so some R3V people wouldn't hurt lol
I think the my relationship with Decay might be too toxic, and the venues I'm looking at don't allow masks :(

/s

sorry decay, i'll invite you too if i invite other R3Vers.

[z31maniac]

My wife wanted Tanzanite, being that it’s NOT a diamond I was able to get her a fat rock. She loves it and gets compliments all the time

BTW you know you have to invite all of r3v to your wedding, even decay. It was buried in the agreement you all blindly signed

I'm ded

[2mAn]

R3v halp

My wife wanted Tanzanite, being that it’s NOT a diamond I was able to get her a fat rock. She loves it and gets compliments all the time

BTW you know you have to invite all of r3v to your wedding, even decay. It was buried in the agreement you all blindly signed

[naplesE30]

I vote ring. I bought my wife's ring for $1000 11 years ago. No it wasn't impressive, but I paid cash. Here honey a $5000 dollar ring and some debt you can help me pay off when married isn't much of a gift was my thinking. Not saying your financing the ring but many do. I also bought from a jeweler that will take trade in at your retail price towards a new ring. So if she wants to upgrade down the road you can. Jewelry is a terrible waste of money in my mind and a more expensive ring only makes your wife a better target for thieves in my opinion.

Either way, if she is the one, don't waste time sealing the deal! Congrats

[z31maniac]

Be careful going with a corundum, Ruby/sapphires.. also very hard durable stones... but buying from the mall / chain like places, most all those stones are going to lab created stones.... NOT WORTH PUTTING YOUR MONEY INTO. yes they are nearly perfect and look great but they are not the natural stone. A REAL ruby from Burma will carry a greater price in the market than most all but the finest quality diamonds. And Burmese pigeons blood ruby is not very translucent.. Some of the better natural sapphires of all colors come out of a few places in Montana and a will run you about 900 a carat give or take for a pretty good one

My mom practically raised me in a jewelry store and we are still going through her lifes collection and she passed away 2 years ago

The ring my ex-wife got from a mall jewelry store chain ended up being much more durable than the one that one of the "specialty" stores of the first one. They replaced it 3 times because the stones kept falling out and finally gave us our money back + $150 for a dinner.


And buying stones as an "investment" is stupid anyway, unless you can somehow get below wholesale pricing.

Go buy that $10,000 ring and then see what you can get for it. If you could get 33% of retail you'd being do well.

Lose it or have it stolen and have your insurance company replace it based on it's appraisal, specs, pictures. People get really pissed off when they find out insurance can replace their $6,000 ring for $3,500 through an even more high quality jeweler.

And when the apocalypse comes, no one is going to trade you food, water, ammunition, etc, for a fancy ring.

In other words, spending real money on jewelry is just dumb.

[mrsleeve]

Be careful going with a corundum, Ruby/sapphires.. also very hard durable stones... but buying from the mall / chain like places, most all those stones are going to lab created stones.... NOT WORTH PUTTING YOUR MONEY INTO. yes they are nearly perfect and look great but they are not the natural stone. A REAL ruby from Burma will carry a greater price in the market than most all but the finest quality diamonds. And Burmese pigeons blood ruby is not very translucent.. Some of the better natural sapphires of all colors come out of a few places in Montana and a will run you about 900 a carat give or take for a pretty good one

My mom practically raised me in a jewelry store and we are still going through her lifes collection and she passed away 2 years ago

[z31maniac]

HA! Nothing wrong with that! There was a long time my ex-wife made more than me.

I don't understand guys who are emasculated by that.

[Ryan...]

Well FYI Diamonds are only considered the "engagement" stone and are forever is because of MARKETING from the 1st half of the 1900's and the Diamond is forever thing came from the late 40s. ONE the BEST MARKETING CAMPAIGN'S EVER!!!!!! Debeers has total control of the gem diamond market and there by controlling the pricing.

Just a fyi is all..... and yes I agree you dont want to go to big, as my wife mostly just wears her band and only wears her moissanite when she needs to, or when its appropriate

It's just going to take me a little bit to get over the idea that I don't *have* to buy a diamond. I'll admit that I'm pretty susceptible to marketing :D

Nope. :) I had back surgery last November and am having an MRI Friday so the surgeon can determine whether or not I need another.

Sounds like you are spending for your own personal satisfaction. Which is, of course fine, but you might want to be a little more practical and ask her if she would rather that money go towards something else.

It's hard for me to understand jewelry spending because my wife and I don't wear any. My wife insisted on a sapphire wedding ring that was small and inexpensive with titanium (I think that's what it was, I know she wanted it silver) band. We almost NEVER wear ours. Only when we go out of town. Even at fancy functions... almost never wear them.

So, maybe now that I think about it... I should just stop giving advice on the subject and let you do you. LOL. But Sleeve is mostly right. DeBeers supplies a large portion of diamonds (35% from a quick Google search) and has helped to cultivate the "value" that people put into wearing a diamond for the last 100+ years. Fortunately, the market has gotten better with much more competition. But at the end of the day... it's a rock.

I would straight up ask her, but she's let it be known that she does want this to be a surprise, and has only given me small hints like style and her lack of care over price. She also wants me to plan something small so it's at least a memorable event/day for her, unlike some of her friends who got proposed to in their apartment kitchen, etc.. I'm fine with that, because she's about as low maintenance everywhere else in our relationship, and she deserves that.

I can always go to her mom who has basically been begging to help..

For myself, I likely will be getting some cheap ring that will be worn outside work. Last thing I want at work is for some punk to know i'm married and decide to try to use that against me.

*sorry to hear about your medical woes, back issues are probably my biggest fear. I talk to a lot of retired cops (family included), and it's rarely anything other than back issues that they complain about.

Buy a cheap ring and start saving that other money for a downpayment on a house.

Anytime my girlfriend starts to get antsy about getting a ring, I ask her, "Do you like living in this nice house I bought us and pay for?"

:devil:

In my case, she knows I live rent free as part of my 2nd job managing the building so I can't really use that against her :D Not to mention, starting February of next year she'll be making significantly more money than I, so she'll probably be the one asking me those questions :rofl:

[z31maniac]

I don't think she's at all going to be caught up on brand name, cost etc... I think she'd be happy with just about anything that's got a round diamond in the center, halo style. Money/cost is not an issue for her honestly, her parents are well off, she's about to start a job making nearly 3x what I do per year, she just wants to get engaged..

I'll have to do a little more research, my first reaction is to simply go for a diamond before anything else.

It can't be too big, because she's pretty small herself at 5'2.5, 120lbs and doesn't want it to look overly gaudy (no gold or rose gold band), and she has to be able to wear latex gloves at work because she's in a hospital working with anesthesia and patients.

Petey the cat isn't small by any means, his but his eyes make him look larger I think :D

Buy a cheap ring and start saving that other money for a downpayment on a house.

Anytime my girlfriend starts to get antsy about getting a ring, I ask her, "Do you like living in this nice house I bought us and pay for?"

:devil: