So i just proposed to my girlfriend of 2.5 years.....

[JGood]

Finding someone who is willing to accept change in you and grow as a person with you is not easy. I find it hard to believe any young person would be capable of coming across someone that's right for them.

Why does it seem everyone thinks they NEED to have a partner? Why is that the norm?

I don't know, I'm single, live my life exactly the way I want to, and wouldn't change a thing. If I meet someone with the same interests as me, who I'm attracted to - I guess whatever happens, happens. I just don't see why people go out and try to find someone to be with - and especially when they try to marry them right away. Marriage has lost all meaning, our society has fucked that up.

If she said no, she doesn't want to marry you. It's a damn good thing she said no. You should be happy. If she didn't, you'd be dealing with a divorce in a few years, like over 60% of America.

[Jean]

Finding someone who is willing to accept change in you and grow as a person with you is not easy. I find it hard to believe any young person would be capable of coming across someone that's right for them.

Why does it seem everyone thinks they NEED to have a partner? Why is that the norm?

I don't know, I'm single, live my life exactly the way I want to, and wouldn't change a thing. If I meet someone with the same interests as me, who I'm attracted to - I guess whatever happens, happens. I just don't see why people go out and try to find someone to be with - and especially when they try to marry them right away. Marriage has lost all meaning, our society has fucked that up.

If she said no, she doesn't want to marry you. It's a damn good thing she said no. You should be happy. If she didn't, you'd be dealing with a divorce in a few years, like over 60% of America.

exactly.

[Bill-B]

Finding someone who is willing to accept change in you and grow as a person with you is not easy. I find it hard to believe any young person would be capable of coming across someone that's right for them.

Why does it seem everyone thinks they NEED to have a partner? Why is that the norm?

I don't know, I'm single, live my life exactly the way I want to, and wouldn't change a thing. If I meet someone with the same interests as me, who I'm attracted to - I guess whatever happens, happens. I just don't see why people go out and try to find someone to be with - and especially when they try to marry them right away. Marriage has lost all meaning, our society has fucked that up.

If she said no, she doesn't want to marry you. It's a damn good thing she said no. You should be happy. If she didn't, you'd be dealing with a divorce in a few years, like over 60% of America.

IIRC it is 81%

[blunttech]

Finding someone who is willing to accept change in you and grow as a person with you is not easy. I find it hard to believe any young person would be capable of coming across someone that's right for them.

Why does it seem everyone thinks they NEED to have a partner? Why is that the norm?

I don't know, I'm single, live my life exactly the way I want to, and wouldn't change a thing. If I meet someone with the same interests as me, who I'm attracted to - I guess whatever happens, happens. I just don't see why people go out and try to find someone to be with - and especially when they try to marry them right away. Marriage has lost all meaning, our society has fucked that up.

If she said no, she doesn't want to marry you. It's a damn good thing she said no. You should be happy. If she didn't, you'd be dealing with a divorce in a few years, like over 60% of America.

why is it not hard for me to believe youre single??

dont listen to any of these freaks dude. if you cant have her nobody can. get some face paint, a high powered rifle and take off all your clothes and show people who the fuck means business

[kylebes1]

why is it not hard for me to believe youre single??

dont listen to any of these freaks dude. if you cant have her nobody can. get some face paint, a high powered rifle and take off all your clothes and show people who the fuck means business

full body shave FTW

Fuck getting married. wait, do you live together? If she has locked herself in the bedroom it is because she is in there with the guy she wants to marry.

If she said no it means no. Its not like a college party where you can do a lil sneaky and still get some before sun-up. Timing is not that important if you love each other.

move your shit out before she moves hers out! have some good good-bye sex and call it over.

[wickedE30]

hahaha.......what a loser.Sounds like some other man is dicking her down.

[gazellebeigem3]

Marriage has lost all meaning, our society has fucked that up.

and yet its somehow still too good for gays. i love jebus!!

[dlmrun2002]

Think about this

HMM SOUNDS like L A B O R DAY.... If you love somehting, set it free. If it doesn't come back, hunt it down and kill it... Works for me..
DLM

[blunttech]

and yet its somehow still too good for gays. i love jebus!!

are you still bitter that you cant legally marry?? get over it dude

[gazellebeigem3]

are you still bitter that you cant legally marry?? get over it dude

im going to relay call marriage proposals to you until you accept or end your life.

[atomic]

you obviously don't have alot of married friends because if you did they would ALL tell you NOT TO GET MARRIED !!!!

[-Javier-]

dont do it

[VAPORBLADE]

Ah, I did that to a girl. She was doing it for all the wrong reasons at the time. Don't sweat it man. 2.5 is long, but it's not that long. Live, and enjoy the freedom to it's fullest.

Make sure you have all the "crazy" out of your system before you settle down and have a family. If she is not the right one, there will be the right one in the future. It is all about finding two people that are willing to live with each others faults. I have been married for 3.5 years now, and it is not just roses and happiness. Those rough times you are talking about will still be there when you are married to anyone.

Good luck - be safe - and have fun.

[blunttech]

marriage is awesome. but bang everything you can beforehand.

[Kate525i]

I think you've got the right idea, honestly... give it time, talk about it wiht out pushing the subject, take more time apart and do some stuff with friends a little more often than usual... you'll feel it when it's right again... but talk..... alot.

I just got married a month ago, and before the wedding we had ALOT of rough times... part of that comes with me being Bipolar, and he understands that, doesn't make it any easier, though. It's really not easy, at all, so make sure you are BOTH ready. Maybe she's not ready yet. Don't just ditch her quite yet. If you really want to make it work, this is good practice. Just stick with it and work through your shit, it may take another year or more. you're both young, be crazy, go fucking insane as much as possible, once you're ready to let alot of that freedom go, you might be ready, but give it time.