So I just broke up with my GF..... rant

[delatlanta1281]

hmmmm
ok.
In this day and age all chicks have baggage.

[JGood]

hmmmm
ok.
In this day and age all chicks have baggage.

mo cushion fo da pushin

slap the wave and ride it in

mmmmmm mmmmmm

[StereoInstaller1]

You guys are ridiculous. I know alot of people in their 30's and 40's who left the love of their life because there may be something better out there - they never found it and now they hate their life. IMO, snag the good ones while they are young before someone else does. By the time you are 30 getting someone without baggage is rough. Primarily because they got dicked around by dudes who wanted to have all the sex they can in their 20's. That's how old fuckers end up hanging out in bars and hitting on chicks that look like a leather handbag.

I am 44, I know better.

I said to get all the waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles you can, but don't leave a trail of broken hearts and lies in your wake...thus the "go for experienced waffleswaffleswaffleswaffleswaffles" thing.

[Turf1600]

hmmmm
ok.
In this day and age all chicks have baggage.

Sorry - that's a poor assumption.

[LINUS]

You guys are ridiculous. I know alot of people in their 30's and 40's who left the love of their life because there may be something better out there - they never found it and now they hate their life.

There's an easy cause-reaction deal there. If a person determines their self worth based on the barometer of their outside relationship rather than their inner self, they won't attract people of like minded healthy mental status.

So thankfully you get a crowd of singles together & the co-dependant types will gravitate to each other, and the healthy ones can normally figure out who the other ones are.

You're 24 - like Luke said, go have fun. Girls gravitate to guys who are looking for a good time & have a fun, healthy thing going. Really - don't underestimate the power of a healthy outlook - it has its' own vibe you can pick up on. I get it off girls all the time & they are the ones I know I want to chase around & see where it goes. The older you get, the more experience you get at spotting the "clingy, needy - marry me!" vibe too.

It's a fact with me & a few of my buddies. One of them went through a divorce (her decision), and he was down in the dumps for a long time. If we went out, he couldn't hold the attention of a girl & he had to do all the legwork to meet them. A little time with a mental health professional, and he was back to his old self. Now we go out & can be minding our own business & a girl will come strike up conversation, etc. People want to be in the company of others who have inner happiness - it's pretty easy to understand when you're in that zone.

So once you get all of your head back, get out there & have fun - pick out the girls with a fun, healthy vibe going & you'll be fine.

[M42Technik]

Yeah taking yoga class makes you an automatic chick magnet. They dig you because you're working out, you're confident enough to be there when most guys won't, and babes who work yoga are really fucking flexible. Ask me how I know.

Do it.

[Turf1600]

There's an easy cause-reaction deal there. If a person determines their self worth based on the barometer of their outside relationship rather than their inner self, they won't attract people of like minded healthy mental status.

So thankfully you get a crowd of singles together & the co-dependant types will gravitate to each other, and the healthy ones can normally figure out who the other ones are.

You're 24 - like Luke said, go have fun. Girls gravitate to guys who are looking for a good time & have a fun, healthy thing going. Really - don't underestimate the power of a healthy outlook - it has its' own vibe you can pick up on. I get it off girls all the time & they are the ones I know I want to chase around & see where it goes. The older you get, the more experience you get at spotting the "clingy, needy - marry me!" vibe too.

It's a fact with me & a few of my buddies. One of them went through a divorce (her decision), and he was down in the dumps for a long time. If we went out, he couldn't hold the attention of a girl & he had to do all the legwork to meet them. A little time with a mental health professional, and he was back to his old self. Now we go out & can be minding our own business & a girl will come strike up conversation, etc. People want to be in the company of others who have inner happiness - it's pretty easy to understand when you're in that zone.

So once you get all of your head back, get out there & have fun - pick out the girls with a fun, healthy vibe going & you'll be fine.

Call me old fashioned I guess. BTW I'm 22 - same relationship for 5 years. Thing's couldn't be better.

[LINUS]

Call me old fashioned I guess. BTW I'm 22 - same relationship for 5 years. Thing's couldn't be better.

Cool. More power to you, but if for any reason you find yourself single down the road, don't consider it a setback. Lots of great single people out there, just have to take the time to look around & find 'em. And obviously it goes without saying that if either of you just hang onto a relationship that isn't working because of the fear of the unknown, that you would be cheating yourself.

I'm a firm believer that if you have your head right & know what you want, the rest of the world falls in line for you. Seems like you hear people making life tougher on themselves than it need be just because of a hangup in their head.

That's coming from a 35 yo who has decided to go all the way back to school & persue a law degree though, so I suppose I'm not exactly your average kind of person. I might be 42 before my 1st day back to work, but it will be life on my terms.

[Garageaholic]

I'm a firm believer that if you have your head right & know what you want, the rest of the world falls in line for you. Seems like you hear people making life tougher on themselves than it need be just because of a hangup in their head.

That's coming from a 35 yo who has decided to go all the way back to school & persue a law degree though, so I suppose I'm not exactly your average kind of person. I might be 42 before my 1st day back to work, but it will be life on my terms.

I see exactly what you're saying. And the past 2 months, i HAVE been healthy-hearted and a real go-getter in the social scene, and i have attracted many girls because of it. I just need time to let this all sink in because after all, i made a conscious decision to take the risk of leaving a good girl 3 hours away in order to have some more fun and "experiences on my own" here while i'm still young and able. I don't think i'm going to find a girl with baggage and if I do, i'll cross that bridge when i come to it because after all, it's my life. I can make the decision to fight or flight as they say. Yeah, it's a risk i'm taking and no, i can't go back to her. I know that the relationship is already tainted forever.

Yeah, she was a great girl, and i am bummed, but like i said, in my mind, i didn't think it was worth another 2 years of 3hr distance. I made the conscious decision that i could eventually find somebody more compatible, bottom line. Until then, i'm going to give myself some grieving time, get over it, and move on, because this is the best time of my life, and i'll be damned if i'm 40 or 45 and look back on my 20's as the time when i was stressed out trying to maintain a long distance relationship.

There were other factors in my decision, not mainly the distance, but the distance didn't help at all.

[damith]

Yeah, she was a great girl, and i am bummed, but like i said, in my mind, i didn't think it was worth another 2 years of 3hr distance. I made the conscious decision that i could eventually find somebody more compatible, bottom line. Until then, i'm going to give myself some grieving time, get over it, and move on, because this is the best time of my life, and i'll be damned if i'm 40 or 45 and look back on my 20's as the time when i was stressed out trying to maintain a long distance relationship.

There were other factors in my decision, not mainly the distance, but the distance didn't help at all.

Hey man, i respect you decision, however if distance was the main factor that causes your broke up, then hear my story. my fiance lives in malaysia,that's basically the other part of the world and this is our 4th year and it's going strong. we r getting married next year. i know it's so hard to have a long distance relationship, but hey that's the life right?

[Turf1600]

Hey man, i respect you decision, however if distance was the main factor that causes your broke up, then hear my story. my fiance lives in malaysia,that's basically the other part of the world and this is our 4th year and it's going strong. we r getting married next year. i know it's so hard to have a long distance relationship, but hey that's the life right?

Does one of you plan on moving?

[atomic]

DUDE !! your young go out and find you some smoking hot older MILF and bang the shit out of her. You will thank me later ...... trust me !!!

[imsotyerred]

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[damith]

Does one of you plan on moving?

yup, she's moving to the States.

[SchnellerVert]

People want to be in the company of others who have inner happiness - it's pretty easy to understand when you're in that zone.

So once you get all of your head back, get out there & have fun - pick out the girls with a fun, healthy vibe going & you'll be fine.

It is tough for some to put their head back on straight. Depression is scary ugly.