Family advice, what should I do next?

[Dean]

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[e30e]

Contact her, what do you have to lose? She may want nothing to do with you or hell want to be in your life. Either way it eliminates the what if.

[Ian Bowers]

Really, it's your choice if you contact her. You already searched for her, so your mind is going towards contacting her. If you do, be totally honest. However, don't look for her to share similarities to your (now deceased, I am extremely sorry for that.) sister.

Just be honest, and say that you share an uncle, and you don't know your biological father, but suspect you may be related.

I'm pretty shit with situations like this, but I wish you the best of luck.

[Adrian_Visser]

I would want to meet her myself. I don't think you have too much at risk for it going wrong, either you meet her or you don't. Unless there is bad blood between your mother and your "real" father that is.

I don't know if I would use facebook to make the contact though, the old fashioned telephone would be more fitting if you ask me.

[Kershaw]

friend her and say,

"what's up sis?"

[Dean]

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[Dean]

friend her and say,

"what's up sis?"

LOL OK I'll let you have that one.

Question I'm really asking too is how would you all react if someone told you what I have found out? She could be Mother Teressa or a complete stuck up horrible girl. I think its the not knowing that scares me as well as opening a can of worms that should have remained shut.

[Fusion]

Photography of said facebook sibling's breast area, or existance of that happening shall be confirmed negative.

[AbsorbantNut]

Call her

[Jonny Cash]

I honestly wouldnt care. Curiosity would always be there, but deep down i wouldnt want anything to do with her.
I have a similar situation myself, only weve met a couple times. I had nothing to say it was more awkward than anything. If you deep down really dont want any contact with your dad then leave it alone.

[Massimo]

I may come across a bit direct but grow some balls and FB her tell her what you know and that is that. She will ithor want to know you or not.

Personally if someone contaced me and said we were related I would want to know how? I would not give the shit to there intensions everyone is different, but I would least like to meet the person and know how we are related.

[pureaudio]

Keep your expectations low, she may not want contact. I have 2 half sister's in Scotland with the rest of my family; my brother, sister and I were born in the states. One of them and I both have the same opinion of the situation, just not worth pursuing a relationship.

[HippyEarly]

Damn........ um........... damn

I think its the not knowing that scares me as well as opening a can of worms that should have remained shut.

To start i think you want to meet her. From the way your telling the story i think your leaning towards meeting her.

If you were my video game and i had the controller I would say go meet her. As well let her know that you care nothing about your father (which might change, you never know) (<--- not saying to change that cause i would imagine I'd tell that guy to fuck of for the rest of my life, fuck that shit).

Blood is blood, just because it came from a basterd dosen't mean anything in my eyes. Does she know most or some of the story that we do?

and back to your quote. What do you have to lose? What do you have to gain? You could meet some snooty girl and be done with it. You could meet your awesome sister that has lived a different life and build from there. She could be there to help with girl issues and kids. You could help her with dude issues and hard times.

You've been through allot and are strong (from your ability to talk). I would imagine you can take what ever is throw at you unless its a meteor (only superman can deal with that shit :D )


When, if you meet, make it a public place so you can just walk away if need be. Or you can go have some pints


Take my shit with a grain of salt if you need to. But you don't need to hold the world on your shoulders by yourself.


edit: O but don't do her. Thats the only thing that would be wrong to do :D

[Dave003]

Contact her my dad found out he had another brother at the age of 45 after my grandpa died (grandpa was stationed in new zealand in the 50s where he met my grandmother and also concieved my uncle prior to that). Since then hes been to the states to visit 3 times and were planning a visit soon and they talk on the phone once a week. How it will be falls on the quality of the person but family is family.

[sophiasmith941]

Hi..
I am feeling very sad by reading all the story of your life..You have struggled lot in your childhood..I pray for you for your healthy and bright life in future..God Bless You...