Anger Management...

[devon.818]

there is a difference between anger and rage. i have rage issues, BAD rage issues to the point that if i loose it i black out and really bad things happen.

i beat up a teacher and half my football team in highschool once and all i remembered was being dragged out of a room by a few friends who managed to contain me lol.

i've knocked people out for cutting me off, broke a guys door off its hinges at a gas station for taking what i believed to be my gas pump, head butted an old employer...yeah you get the idea.


i've gotten it under control, well managable atleast. its really hard to realize you are about to go off and either A, withdraw yourself from the situation or B, realize whatever the trigger is is actually not a big deal at all.

a buddy told me that is is just as easy to be nice as it is to be mean. that helped, i tell myself that as i feel my temper starting to go up.



but yeah, having a rage issue sucks, you legitamately appear crazy to people witnessing what you are doing. i talked to a shrink about it, she said the actuall turn is to "snap", when you go from normal to seeing red and not being in control, and once you loose control, all bets are off.


idk if i helped, but maybe lol

[ohthejosh]

I am in the same boat, Ive become uncontrollable at times. Ive broken my hand twice and bent my house key with my thumb trying to calm my rage down.

Sometimes people just need an epiphany to change it all around but try keeping you mouth shut when you feel like getting real upset, be angry inside and reflect then realize its not worth it.

Some hobbies to keep you mind clear would help, working on your e30 or taking up a sport like MMA may also help.

edit; I blame this rage on Bieber. Why Bieber? WHY THE FCK NOT?! YOU GOT A PROBLEM BRO? COME AT ME BRO!!!!!!!

[Bearmw]

I don't know if you drink but anger and alcohol can get someone killed.

In any event just acknowledging it is a good step. Most likely you have a lot to be grateful for and less to be angry about. And remember no one makes you mad.

[RUFFLZ]

there is a difference between anger and rage. i have rage issues, BAD rage issues to the point that if i loose it i black out and really bad things happen.

i beat up a teacher and half my football team in highschool once and all i remembered was being dragged out of a room by a few friends who managed to contain me lol.

i've knocked people out for cutting me off, broke a guys door off its hinges at a gas station for taking what i believed to be my gas pump, head butted an old employer...yeah you get the idea.


i've gotten it under control, well managable atleast. its really hard to realize you are about to go off and either A, withdraw yourself from the situation or B, realize whatever the trigger is is actually not a big deal at all.

a buddy told me that is is just as easy to be nice as it is to be mean. that helped, i tell myself that as i feel my temper starting to go up.



but yeah, having a rage issue sucks, you legitamately appear crazy to people witnessing what you are doing. i talked to a shrink about it, she said the actuall turn is to "snap", when you go from normal to seeing red and not being in control, and once you loose control, all bets are off.


idk if i helped, but maybe lol

holy shit haha

[Pac1373]

Anger/snapping at small things, I know about this. I can easily deal with major problems but the little shit...no way.
there is a potential that it can be linked to ADD/ ADHD, or depression as well.

find and think of your trigger issues. try to avoid trigger situations. Mine are long waits (think line up at Tim's or something) and bad/inconsiderate drivers. and stupididty.

no tolerance for these things at all.

[VANOS714]

Hit the punching bag while listening to some hardcore metal music.

[1fastETA]

I swear like a mothefuckaaa

[Rsully70sev]

Weed.

[Dave McLaren]

Over time you may just mellow out. If raging keeps causing you to suffer bad situations, I suppose the subliminal may dial out those reactions in order to make life bearable. Lots of things mellow with age. Anyway, at least your consious of the situation and trying to get a handle on it. Good for you.

[Dave McLaren]

Over time you may just mellow out. If raging keeps jacking your life up, I suppose the subliminal may dial out those reactions in order to make life bearable (keep job vs. headbutting, sayonara job bummer). Anyway, at least your consious of the situation and trying to get a handle on it. Good for you.

[SA E30]

Thanks gents!

Yeah, not sure if I have anger issues or rage issues. Cause I can feel what I'm doing just a lot of the time I don't feel like I can stop myself. Like a huge rush of energy needs to be released.

Don't really drink anymore, not much in the last 2 years. No drugs either.

I feel like I should have loads of stress in my life, struggling to find a job, my folks money issues, wanting to get my ass into gear to marry the girl of my dreams, and not to mention the passing of my gf's sister and bf 2 months ago.

The thing is all these things have only served to make it worse, its always been there.

Gotta, figure this out it"s putting strain on my relationship with my lady.

EDIT: no fighting sports. I did Karate for 8yrs, and boxed for 2... All it did was give me the tools to rage more efficiently/physicall vent :/

[lolcantturn]

Crack, bro.

[Rsully70sev]

Life gives you lemons, for better or for worse. That's just the way it goes. What I do a lot when I'm pissed is just think about the good things in my life, and how a few speed bumps in the way will soon be passed. Life could be A LOT worse, and sometimes I/we take it for granted. I don't speak for all of us, but a lot of our problems are "first world problems." And I put that into perspective.

[DatUtahGuy]

^^^ this, first world problems compared to other places in this world.

[der affe]

Don't let shit build up to the point where you flip out, deal with them right away. You will mellow with age too.

I found being on fire mellowed me a bunch, but that is a bit drastic.