Just lost another friend

[Jscotty]

In one way, im glad he was doing what he loved when he was injured, but on the other hand, what a terrible way to go.

Actually getting shot 15 times in the back while cheating on your spouse is a terrible way to go.

Loss of life is always painful for the survivors whether it was a good way or bad way to go. But I figure that dying in a skateboard accident isn't the worst thing that can happen to a person. Its just one of those unexpected mishaps that causes the loss of life.

I am sure if your friend could talk to you right now, you and he would be having a good laugh about how he totally wiped out. And I am sure that if it were the other way around, you would not want your friend to be sad and all messed up over the situation. You would want him to go on with life. Now if your friend got shot at VT last week he would probably be screaming "AVENGE ME! Don't let me die in vain! Make those suckers pay!"

So on one hand, it could have been much much worse, but on the other hand I know that you wish it was different. It surely was not supposed to end this way and if you could turn the clock back a few days that would make all of the difference.

Sometimes I even think about what if something happened to my closest friends and if I could really cope with the loss REGARDLESS of how they died and if I thought it was senseless or just a minor mishap. And what I find so interesting about losing close friends and loved ones is that their death is so surreal. It just seems so inconcieveable that they are gone. I was talking to them yesterday and everything seemed fine. Today they are gone permanently. I wish I could explain it to myself and justify it in my own mind but sometimes I really cant.

So the best way for me to cope is to not dwell on something that I had no control over. I mean if I had the power to reverse death, I would have something to be upset about if my friend died.

[ivo316]

So the best way for me to cope is to not dwell on something that I had no control over. I mean if I had the power to reverse death, I would have something to be upset about if my friend died.

The point here is that you can achieve such a thing because he was NOT SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU, when the person that dies IS CLOSE TO YOU you DO dwell on the matter, and years might go by with you asking yourself "why didn't I call him on the cellphone at that exact time, or invite him to lunch that day", etc.

My condolescences and I will pray for him and his family, I know it's hard, but be close to them and support them in any way you can, it's really hard to lose a son or brother, it is on times like these where your friendship extends past death to his loved ones until they don't need it anymore.

Sorry.

[Jscotty]

years might go by with you asking yourself "why didn't I call him on the cellphone at that exact time, or invite him to lunch that day", etc.

If you allow yourself to keep thinking about things like that, you will be the only one miserable while your friend is enjoying himself in a better place.

[markseven]

My condolences to his family and friends. I hope he didn't suffer too much.