Pretty worldly wise for an old single guy, huh?
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I'd say so. Age has it's many, many benefits. You've nailed it pretty much on the head, man. There's a point, and this point is usually very far off from when most "men" turn tail and run in a marriage. This guy? He's hit that point and passed it. He's done nearly everything he can in regards to his marriage. B*, you've got to take a hard look at your wife and seriously consider that this just wasn't meant to be beyond a learning experience. She's making her choices despite your effort into the marriage. You can't control her or her decisions in life much less the out come of where you two corporately will end up.
Take care of you. Get your shit straight and figure out more you than her at this point. She's got a long path.
Dr. Der Affe, you're a compliment to men-hood everywhere ;)Need a part? PM me.
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When women get careless about a mans earnings from hard work, its time to get careless about women... not all women, just those stupid ones
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When it comes down to it, no one on this internet site knows your marrige as well as you do......With that being said Dr.phil's brother Der affe made a good point. You need to step back and analyze the situation, look at it from her perspective and your own. The right decision may not come to you right away, but think your way through this and keep your head on straight. Sometimes people just need a hand, be it from your or her family, either way, she will get help.
One a side note of addiction, nothing is more dissapointing than finding out someone you thought was clean for over 20 years had been using all along.Originally posted by bimmersharkComment
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get a 20 year old gf that is studying nursing.
:pimp:AWD > RWDComment
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we've always had totally seperate accounts. I don't know anything about her money and I don't care - but I know she saves most of it. Every once in a while we joke with each other about how "rich" we are and show off our balances (she always has way more than me), but she doesn't care what's in my account either. as long as bills get paid and there's food on the table it doesn't matter.Comment
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it might be that we totally trust each other that we have our seperate accounts, instead of the other way around. I mean, you can't get away with shit if you both share the same account, right? I think it takes more trust to have seperate ones that the other can't see.
unfortunately for the OP he's already way past that..Comment
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At first i was reading this thread and was quickly losing interest. But then it got pretty serious and although I am no counselor.... emotions are definitely a cause of irrational exuberance. People will act knowing full well that it's not in their best interest because of a little thing called love.
Right now, with your work situation, finances, and relationship... I'd definitely agree to take a step back and make sure you ask your close friends and family for a very objective opinion. Then listen to them.
On the other hand, perhaps the lack of attention and being around has set her off on a dark path that she just needs help. If you really love her, then it would be pretty difficult for her to help herself if the one who she finds most support in left. The trick is trying to help her recover and doing something that will leave a more positive and productive path before her. Finances are always prohibitive, but things like trying to help her find better work, re-education, whatever might help her in the long run.
/devils advocate
Can you objectively say to yourself that you can see yourself with her in the next 6months - year? Are you still in love with her, or do you just like the idea of having someone there to love. If it were me, personally, I wouldn't see this as a relationship I'd get back into. But thats only something you can decide for yourself.
Be true to yourself, and I hope all works out one way or another. Sometimes it's ok to be selfish. I'm sorry to hear that things have become pretty difficult in your life.Comment
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This is exactly how I read the beginning, for some reason. No, I am not dyslexic.
I have NO IDEA why I read it. But the F and A from Fast, the L from Like, and the ASAP for some reason led me to believe that one of your solutions was "FALL ASLEEP".
I was like "Damn- what a strategy. Just play dead."The Red Dragon V.5 1991 318iS / 2013 F800GT
"You gotta fix the nut behind the wheel before you fix the bolts on the car"Comment
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She went into detox today. Sucks I have to fly out to Charlotte tomorrow. I would love to see her everyday.Ma che cazzo state dicendo? :|Comment
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