How did your parents punish you when you were younger?

[Mercury[BKM]]

dammit phreshkid put the other sig pic back!! I DEMAND IT!

[Fusion]

It's all about drawing the line between punishment and abuse. It may not be appropriate to compare kids to dogs but they're similar in a way. I believe its ok to slap a puppy's butt and take it outside, but never hit it hard enough to cause big pain, let alone making it limp or something. Punishment should be outweighed by reward so that you set the boundaries as to what is wrong and right.

I don't believe you can raise a kid with zero punishment. People that refuse to physically punish their kids can often turn that natural punishment into mental punishment, which can be way way more dangerous and have long-term consequences.

But like I said, at least in my case, the largest pain and bruises were caused by playing with friends. I also got into a couple fights with my brother where we would punch each other, tear clothes off, I threw a toy helicopter at him and almost blinded one eye, he hit me over the head with a flower pot, but we always got over it after a couple days.
Nothing I regret, nor would do differently a second time around. And I don't reproach how our parents raised us.

[Pinepig]

You claim my parents did not teach me humility, I feel no need to be humble towards this topic or this discussion. Feeling obliged to keep your mouth shut for fear of upsetting someone or speaking out is not a positive trait, sorry if you're deluded enough to think that.

Cale you are what I would classify as " crotch fruit " please go smack your mama in the mouth for what she has done to you, then burn her copy of Dr Spock's book.

[markseven]

It's all about drawing the line between punishment and abuse. It may not be appropriate to compare kids to dogs but they're similar in a way. I believe its ok to slap a puppy's butt and take it outside, but never hit it hard enough to cause big pain, let alone making it limp or something. Punishment should be outweighed by reward so that you set the boundaries as to what is wrong and right.

I don't believe you can raise a kid with zero punishment. People that refuse to physically punish their kids can often turn that natural punishment into mental punishment, which can be way way more dangerous and have long-term consequences.

But like I said, at least in my case, the largest pain and bruises were caused by playing with friends. I also got into a couple fights with my brother where we would punch each other, tear clothes off, I threw a toy helicopter at him and almost blinded one eye, he hit me over the head with a flower pot, but we always got over it after a couple days.
Nothing I regret, nor would do differently a second time around. And I don't reproach how our parents raised us.

Certainly. I don't think anyone here is condoning child abuse or coming anywhere near "the line". Discipline, deterrents, consequences, and repercussions are a part of learning how to respect yourself, respect others, respect property and to respect the world around you.

[Dozyproductions]

Lol, there is too much hurt pride in this thread. It was already admitted that no two kids are alike so no, not being punished doesn't some how makes you weak.

[blunttech]

my father would make me get his tools from the garage and then make me remove the large double door on the kitchen over and beat me with it. It weighed a good 20 lbs and he would cave my skull in with it. Once during thanksgiving when mom was using the over to cook a turkey he made me remove a table leg from the dining room table. I had to hold the edge of the table up without spilling the cranberries while he beat me with that table leg

[der affe]

i also got beat with hot wheels track, forgot about that. holy shit did that hurt!

[mrsleeve]

i also got beat with hot wheels track, forgot about that. holy shit did that hurt!

I beat my brother with Hot Wheels track one time. Then he got the drop on me with a wooden T-ball bat, Mom and dad thought it was a fair trade off

[cale]

LOL! Sir, you are extremely ignorant. Not to be rude, I respect your opinion but...

Do you have kids? How many?

I f you do and they are great kids, congrats on your approach at parenting. But what about their kids?

If you don't, then you really shouldn't voice shit like that.

Everyone is different, no two children are alike. Pain and discomfort happen to be the biggest factor in childhood development or learning. If a child does something wrong, spank em'. Talking can be a very risky form of punishment.

Having a differing opinion does not make me ignorant, nor does voicing that opinion. Not once have I said that disciplining your child with pain will result in a poorly brought up child, I've only said it's a barbaric technique and that it classifies as abuse. Go read the definition of child abuse and come back to me. Nothing I've stated was out of ignorance.

Cale you are what I would classify as " crotch fruit " please go smack your mama in the mouth for what she has done to you, then burn her copy of Dr Spock's book.

I sure am, what with my ability to be an upstanding, law-abiding contributor to society all thanks to my upbringing. So many in this thread act shocked that someone speaks out against using pain as a tool to control your child's actions. I'm impressed you've been able to deduce my entire character value by a few posts though, one would think that's a fairly impossible feat but you've managed to do it, guess who gets the gold star today?!

[Jonny Cash]

I had to hold the edge of the table up without spilling the cranberries while he beat me with that table leg

hahahahahhahahha youre a sick fuck. im cracking up hardcore right now..

No honestly it wasnt too bad for me. If i put my face to close to the dinner plate my face was shoved in it, and I was smacked around a little when i was dumb, but nothing that actually hurt me that bad. What made me violent is neibhorhood kids, and my siblings more than anything.. lol

Compared to an old friend of mine, I used to hang out over there trading baseball cards. He would blink the wrong way, and his dad would tune him up. One day were playing wiffle ball HR derby in the street and the ball hit his house window- his dad comes out, grabs him by the jacket slams his head into the brick wall cracks his head open. 10 stitches. Another time he didnt show up for school, so i knocked on his door after school. everyones home but noone answers. two weeks later he comes over telling me he had two broken ribs because his dad nailed him with a shovel because he played too much nintendo. He's 30 now, still has the dent there..

[pureaudio]

Do you realize how incredibly self righteous you come across? Do you even have kids yourself? Yeah there is child abuse and there are multiple cases in this thread that I would classify as that but you need to pull your head out of your ass if you think all physical punishment is barbaric and classifies as abuse.

My oldest son is 3 and a swift swat to the butt is the only thing that can make him calm down sometimes. According to my mom he is a clone of me and she regrets not spanking me as a child because she can see how my son responds to it. Every child is different and you are a fool if you think that the way you were raised is the end all solution.

[cale]

I've been referring to using objects like the ones mentioned in the thread prior to my first post, I should have clarified that. I don't agree with spanking, but I don't consider it to be abusive. Reaching for the nearest object you can use as a weapon however is pretty over the top.

[Jonny Cash]

Its hard for me to figure out, I have a two year old- right out of the box he's had a little 'idgaf what anyone says' in him. He already has that troublemaker look in his eye sometimes I have little control over..
Sometimes i feel i need to get physical with him, but he's too small. ... forget reading that other crap on the internet its all about the inner workings of making the next generation a bunch of cupcakes.. If you dont teach them to defend themselves, their peers surely will- bottom line.

[phreshkid]

I still don't consider how my parents disciplined me to be abuse. You have to understand the cultural differences. In old school Romania and Austria, being nice gets you no where. These were very communist countries at the time of my parent's upbringings and if you know anything about communist regimes, you understand the terrible things that the government did to it's country's inhabitants. My parents played key roles in smuggling and leading many other families out of the country from religious persecution. The work they endured and the lives they lived under that regime was something I'll never understand and they were risking their lives to sneak as many people as they could out of those countries. Many of my family members were killed in the process. My dad was imprisoned for years and tortured for years for getting caught. He was finally released when the communist leader of Romania was finally captured and dealt with. The cities are covered in bullet holes to this day from the revolts and rebellions of the common people who wanted with all their lives to overthrow their corrupt governments for a chance at freedom.

A life like this makes your heart hard. Discipline is fundamental lesson that you instill as quickly and as swift as possible. The faster you learn it, the harder it hurts, the better you remember, the more it works.

This is how I see it, and I thank my parents for not letting me live the lives that they lived. And plus, I was a bad kid.

[Pinepig]

guess who gets the gold star today?!

Sweet, I won.:D