Is it just me or all the younger women just..

[Dozyproductions]

That sounds like a plan too.

heh, a lot of my friends are going this route and half of them already got married to crazy cool people. I guess time will tell no?

[Redfox]

Nah, just use match.com after college. Don't have kids till your 30's and travel the world before that ;) Unless you're christian, start waffleswaffleswaffleswafflesing right away and skip the traveling the world.

That sounds like a plan too.

[Dozyproductions]

Nah, just use match.com after college. Don't have kids till your 30's and travel the world before that ;) Unless you're christian, start waffleswaffleswaffleswafflesing right away and skip the traveling the world.

[Redfox]

Thats what I have been telling myself for a while. Just sucks to see so many women my age go to waste to partying and nonsense. I couldn't tell you the last time I met a girl who had a passion for something besides drama/going out. Atleast the ones i've picked have never really had a passion for, lets say, playing the guitar or a sport. Its usually this:

"My friends and family mean the world to me. I love to go out and drink, and be social. I love going to the beach" /convo.

Its just so bland and predictable. I just wish there was some more originality in the people I meet. And sure, say I am bitching, but atleast since the start of this thread I have learned a lot of what to expect and how to go about fixing my efforts of meeting them. Its really just more or less finding somewhere around me that a lot of college girls go to, that is NOT a bar. I wouldn't mind playing a game of pool with friends at a bar but its the fact that the women that go there are not really the type I want.

As a female I can somewhat answer this question..
In general, college and partying go hand in hand. You aren't going to really find what you're looking for in college, unless they are in the same places you occupy.. College is about "living it up" "partying" and getting shitfaced, at least for the majority of 20 somethings it is. If you have a hobby, vacate areas that include that hobby, or things that interest you. Whether it be taking a photography class (to learn to take pics of your car or whatever it may be), cooking class, dog park, or whatever it may be, you are more apt to find the type of "fish" you are looking to catch in an area like that.

I never really found much ambition, goals, or anything I truly wanted in guys my own age range. There is just a lot of immaturity and chest puffing, the typical pissing contests and my dick is bigger than yours outlook. I didn't expect to find someone or be in a serious relationship until my late twenties just due to the overwhelming differences in the typical male persona. I have nothing but male friends, maybe 2 or 3 female friends at best. I love hanging with the guys, goofing off and just shooting the shit and having fun. I think there's really no need to rush to find "the one" while so young. You should focus on your car, friends, and enjoying life.

The only things that a relationship and getting married young will result in is kids you may or may not be able to afford, certain freedoms being restricted, dumping tons of money into a wedding, and having vanilla ice cream for the rest of your life. Go out, sample the ice creams (doesn't mean screwing everything in sight, just dating and seeing the vast number of different people, cultures, and personalities), try new things, and be selfish. Enjoy your youth. You don't have to worry about heartbreak, being cheated on, dumping money into someone who wont be around longterm.

[Kozworth]

OP just keep telling yourself "bitches ain't shit...."

Thats what I have been telling myself for a while. Just sucks to see so many women my age go to waste to partying and nonsense. I couldn't tell you the last time I met a girl who had a passion for something besides drama/going out. Atleast the ones i've picked have never really had a passion for, lets say, playing the guitar or a sport. Its usually this:

"My friends and family mean the world to me. I love to go out and drink, and be social. I love going to the beach" /convo.

Its just so bland and predictable. I just wish there was some more originality in the people I meet. And sure, say I am bitching, but atleast since the start of this thread I have learned a lot of what to expect and how to go about fixing my efforts of meeting them. Its really just more or less finding somewhere around me that a lot of college girls go to, that is NOT a bar. I wouldn't mind playing a game of pool with friends at a bar but its the fact that the women that go there are not really the type I want.

[Stanley Rockafella]

This thread smells of failure. Maybe if you guys did not suck so much you could get a cool, fun good looking nice woman. Why would they want to date whiney little b*tches...

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we are MEN, that's why they are women. Most of the females I've known all expect some authority of the man to say what's what and to take control of the situation. As such I've altered my though process to just be more fun and more headstrong towards what I want (don't worry, women worry enough for both in the relationship).

Women just want to be there to help us obtain what we want. They want what's best for both of us. Atleast that's how it's been for me and the chics I've known

[Swanny]

OP just keep telling yourself "bitches ain't shit...."


But seriously you're young and people do dumb shit at your age, women AND men. Give it a few years before you really get worried and you'll start to see people straighten up their act when the real world come toppling down on them and they realize they pissed away their better years.

[Redfox]

I've seen females whine worse. It's cool to see guys expressing their feelings and insecurities.

[F34R]

This thread smells of failure. Maybe if you guys did not suck so much you could get a cool, fun good looking nice woman. Why would they want to date whiners...

[Holland]

My girlfriend just broke up with me :'(
She was my first girlfriend and it only lasted 3 months. She said i needed more experience with dating. We definitely rushed it. Well i dont want to keep going through short relationships. She still wants to be friends but idk if i can do that if i still like her.

o well, maybe one day ill grow up

My ex wanted to be "friends". Never talked to her again, never want to.

so much losing in this thread.


sad...very sad

That's because women suck. Men suck too. Everyone basically sucks so we never get along.

[Stanley Rockafella]

so much losing in this thread.


sad...very sad

[Xat1cZ]

She said i needed more experience with dating.

That's quite a stupid thing to say, why not gain experience with her, rather than basically turning into a man-whore for the next ~2 years, and then maybe she'll date you again? :loco:

[Pl3wA]

My girlfriend just broke up with me :'(
She was my first girlfriend and it only lasted 3 months. She said i needed more experience with dating. We definitely rushed it. Well i dont want to keep going through short relationships. She still wants to be friends but idk if i can do that if i still like her.

o well, maybe one day ill grow up

[Xat1cZ]

'sup



laters

[Kozworth]

Wow, this is a rather depressing thread, though there is some good advice here and there. Here is most of what I have taken from my ~15 years in the dating world, which includes failure, success, everything from manwhoring to celibacy, one night stands to multi-year relationships.

1. First, you must know and be comfortable with yourself. If you aren't happy with who you are and where you are in life, then don't bother looking. You can tell if someone is a happy person or not, and if not you generally don't want to be around them. If you aren't happy with where you are, then your energy should be in rectifying that situation first.
2. Along the same lines of 1. know that confidence breeds success. If you're comfortable with yourself there's no reason not to be confident. Bishes love confidence. This doesn't mean being a dick, just apply #3.
3. Be yourself. Don't try to be what you think someone else wants, to assume you know what they want will burn you (this goes for job interviews as well). Forcing a fit never works long run, and you won't be happy. At some point you will need to be yourself, and when that happens they will feel lied to and then no one will be happy.
4. Don't be idealistic. Know what traits are important to you and what your deal breakers are, but don't pigeon hole yourself into only looking for one type of person. Often what you think you want isn't what you need or are compatible with. If you're only looking for a 5'9" 36-24-36 blonde hair blue eyed chick who wrenches on e30's, you're gonna have a bad time.
5. Be nice. No, being nice doesn't mean being effeminate or being a pansy. Yes, I know the cliche "nice guys finish last." It's bullshit (long-term anyway). Yes, there are some women who like being treated like shite, but the overwhelming majority do like a nice guy. This means being respectful and having some compassion for your fellow man. You'll be amazed how far a small random act of kindness will go with women.
6. Don't try too hard. This applies to a lot of things, but know that desperation doesn't look good on anyone. This doesn't mean not to put in effort, effort is appreciated, but be reasonable. Some women may like to be choked, but they don't like to be suffocated. Texting them every 6 seconds isn't going to work out for you.
7. Patience. Probably should be #1, and has been mentioned before. Also relevant to #1, #3, and #6. Yes, everyone around you may be married, having kids, etc. Whatever. You live your life, let them live theirs. Don't worry about what others have (especially in terms of relationships), that shouldn't matter to you. Also, if you're in your early to mid 20's, you have nothing at all to complain about. Women your age too immature? Go cougar hunting or something. Goes back to #4, know what you want.

I may add to or amend this later, but this should at least get some gears turning.

This is a good share of advice. Thank you for your input and feel free to add anything.