Nonsense Thread

[2mAn]

I would enlist 2man for his opinion, because he has met her

shes at least a 7 on both axis… probably more like a 8x8, so I’d say it was fun while it lasted and you can start fresh with new job and new locale. Who knows maybe she will settle down on the crazy a little (she won’t lol)

Any update on the work?

[Chilezen]

I would enlist 2man for his opinion, because he has met her

[JasonWilson48]

You can have the most recent photo I have of her (it's a still from a video but it counts). It's from a few weeks ago when we went to Laguna Seca, slept in a tent, and watched drift cars haul ass. Good memories, good girl. All smiles

Just to close the loop... I will put her in the Fun Zone based on a single picture and my limited knowledge from this nonsense thread.

Ok, I'm back to being mature.

I always find myself saying to myself "This too shall pass". It always helps to remind me that there are going to be constant struggles/stresses/conflicts in life. Some come, some go, some stay forever. As long as you can do your best to confront them, and don't let them consume you on a daily basis, you will keep moving forward and make progress to wherever you want your life to go. So keep rolling with the punches. Life somehow finds a way to figure it self out. Might take a month or a decade, but eventually you'll find yourself where you belong.

[Chilezen]

What I'm about to say is said simply, and takes time to fully feel this concept, truly.

Getting out of my own head has been a struggle, but it's the biggest factor in doing anything. Learning about my mental disabilities and understanding how to work with them/around them is how I am able to roll with the punches and move forward. Never expected that would be on my bingo card this year, but here we are.

I will remember to show up for myself everyday, as you say. I like the way that sounds.

clam pics no longer make up for a bad woman's bullshit

I heard some phrase when I was young, sounded something like "No matter how beautiful a woman is, there's a man out there that's tired of her bullshit". Has always stuck with me.

I miss my girl though. It was a crazy that I almost figured out how to handle.

[Chilezen]

You can have the most recent photo I have of her (it's a still from a video but it counts). It's from a few weeks ago when we went to Laguna Seca, slept in a tent, and watched drift cars haul ass. Good memories, good girl. All smiles

[JasonWilson48]

I've seen her... you should ask. I didn't out of respect.

Whats wrong with me...

Fuck it... I'm new around here, and not very mature. I'll be that guy.

Let's see the photos so we can rate her on the hot/crazy matrix.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pInk1rV2VEg

[Northern]

Damn I'm late to the party... Hell of a past 3 pages. Sorry to hear you're going through this.
I think blessing in disguise is exactly what this is.

I signed a paper, basically an NDA, saying I can't share any data, proprietary knowledge, and can't slander the business. I think it says I'm not supposed to even talk about being fired? Idk whatever

Double check that NDAs are even remotely enforceable where you are, often they are bullshit or at least have situations where they are not.
I would not pass over any job due to an NDA with an ex-employer.

Afterwards, he is interested in the idea (this was actually my idea I pitched to him a month ago) that I would be contracted to come in and install a roll cage, or maybe do something else that I'm good at. I said that's a possibility, I would like to keep the door open for future business.

Absolutely agree to this for now. You can always change your mind later. When the time comes, name your price and don't sell yourself short.

I've seen your work, I think you would do well on your own if you could sort out a solid customer base.

[MrBurgundy]

You're absolutely right, , man.

Getting laid, but having to deal w the problems of a troublesome woman aint worth it at all.

Like, I got hoes that will do amazing things for 10 minutes of my time. Things a gf cannot do. So, why would I deal w the troubles of being in a relationship with a woman that eliminates my peace?

[econti]

I can tell that I've matured because clam pics no longer make up for a bad woman's bullshit

-edit
I will add that in my last patch of dating I encountered quite a few of the above. But I'm now with a good one so that is a thing of the past

[MrBurgundy]

NO ONE has demanded pics of his ex. I'm very proud of us.

as the kids would say today's age.

That would be diabolical

[2mAn]

NO ONE has demanded pics of his ex. I'm very proud of us.

I've seen her... you should ask. I didn't out of respect.

Whats wrong with me...

[McGyver]

Would you look at that... r3v has matured a little.

NO ONE has demanded pics of his ex. I'm very proud of us.

[2mAn]

Lots of good info in the above posts.

Would you look at that... r3v has matured a little.

waffles

[McGyver]

Damn dude, it sounds like it's been a really tough year. Things definitely can get better, but it's going to take some soul searching for you to figure out what is healthy for you.

I work in manufacturing and focus on continuous improvement to cut costs and improve production. Most of the problems I see stem from bad management - Implementing bad processes that don't get good results, unclear communication, unclear expectations, buying equipment to make things more productive (but not figuring out how to run the equipment), etc. It sounds like you dealt with a lot of this in the small business. I can understand your commitment to providing the best product to the customer, but I can also understand the owner's expectation to cut costs by only providing the level of service that the customer is paying for. Try to not tie your self-worth into the job, it was an aspect of your life, but not the defining characteristic. I agree with the others that you should have an honest reflection of what went well and what didn't go well, then try to figure out how what changes you want to make to grow from this experience - And it's ok to take some time before diving into it.

As for the job stuff, it sounds like the owner didn't have cause to fire you. Perhaps the laws allow him to terminate your employment, but then you also get some rights. Keep in mind that you don't work for him anymore and you can make any decisions you want. I assume he was worried about you suing for wrongful termination, so he got you to sign stuff. I probably wouldn't have signed anything without negotiating something in return. My previous job was eliminated and I got 2 weeks of severance for each year I worked at the company (14 weeks total). Two weeks of severance is basically nothing and I would push for more. I would also push for a lump-sum payment versus getting it over time, this may allow you to start getting unemployment right away. I would think really hard about going back to work for him for another 4 weeks. I wouldn't have signed anything without getting something substantial in return - severance would be in exchange for signing an NDA and agreeing to not sue. The knowledge you gained from working there could be valuable to a competitor, severance it payment for keeping the knowledge secret.

As far as continuing to work for him, be honest about whether this is a relationship you want to continue in a personal and/or professional manner. He put himself in a bad position and is now trying to get his projects done without keeping you on. Working for him will take away from time spent looking for the next job, but it also puts some money in the bank. One option might be for him to treat you as an independent contractor at a higher hourly rate, like 1.5x. Your old rate was based on the mutual assumption that you'd continue working for him. Now you know your time is limited and he knows projects can't get finished without you, so the situation has changed. Your time is worth more to both of you.

Definitely go get your property from his shop.

Definitely apply for unemployment if you haven't done it yet.

[MrBurgundy]

What I'm about to say is said simply, and takes time to fully feel this concept, truly.

You at the end of the day, at the end of all relationships-friends, romantic, family, pets, whatever- You only have yourself. You have to understand, which I'm not saying about you, but is said to fully get to this point.

There is no room for this woe is me, there is no room to defer life outcomes on external influences, there is no room in life to export responsibility of your own life and life outcomes.

I say this from experience. I used to be in the same place as you man, truly.

I had nothing, no relationship with my family, lost romantic relationships, broke as fuck. I say this with no exaggeration, I was about to be homeless at one point.

You have to understand that you and only you are going to change your life. No one is going to come and change it for you. When shit hits the fan, you only got you.

You have to roll with these blows and take action everyday to move forward.

It's like going to the gym. You're not going to wake up tomorrow jacked. But if you go everyday, the only outcome is success.

Show up for yourself every fucking day, in a meaningful way and the only outcome is the life you want. That's a promise brother.

There is no room in life to build relationships unless you build one with yourself first. When you love yourself and the life you built. Every relationship in your life change for the better.

I know this is easier said than done, but trust me.

You have to bridge the duality of the person in your psyche, who you wish to be and the person who is physically here. when those two come closer together, life your life will also come together.